(Closed) How to dis-invite a guest from your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you don’t want her at the dinner just tell her there was a limited number of seats allowed at the venue for your welcome dinner and since she was going out of town (or if you want to be passive aggressive, you heard she had conflicting dinner plans that night) you assumed she couldn’t make it. Unfortunately, due to space restraints you can’t add any more people at this point. Say sorry and end the conversation. 

If you don’t want her at the wedding, tell her what you are telling us-she’s being a bad friend. To warn you though, this will most definitely end your relationship with her and being that you guys seem to have mutual friends this may have a ripple effect on your relationships with your shared friends. Would you really want to deal with all this drama before/on your wedding day?


Post # 4
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You’re not disinviting her since she wasn’t invited to this pre-wedding event to begin with.  And she’s leaving town the next morning!  Hopefully if you just stick to the, sorry we have limited room for this event and it is full she’ll go away.

Post # 5
8359 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Has she been offically invited to this event? If not then there is nothing to uninvite her to. But if she has well then it is kind of too late.

If she didn’t know about the welcome dinner then how could she be competing with it? She took the opportunity that everyone was going to be gathered (for your wedding) to initiate a get together. I don’t really see how that is a problem or how that makes her a horrible person! Infact it makes her quite a nice person to take the time to try and organise a get together for friends that haven’t seen each other for a while.

I understand that you are upset about the fact that she was questioning you about your mother and her health. Did you at anytime ask her to stop or mention that you didn’t want to discuss it there? You say you tried to change the topic but maybe she didn’t pick up on that. In all honesty she was probably really concerned and ignorant about your mothers health issues and was trying to gain some information about it from the person who would know and not listen to gossip and rumour or misinformation.

Honestly I just think you dislike this girl which is fair enough but stop trying to find excuses to find fault with her and just man up and end the friendship. Yes you will look like the bad person but be an adult about it.

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