(Closed) How to do a Honeymoon Registry?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We used Honeyfund and I really like it. Very user friendly, it pretty much walks you through the whole process. You can put any items you want on the registry or use their list of suggested ones for your destination. You get to pick the quantities and price of each thing you put on there. We mainly put island activities we’ll be doing in Hawaii but also dinners and cocktails. You can even link the event you wanna do to a webpage for your guests to read more about it. If you pay the $29 upgrade fee you can display a photo slideshow and pick from several backgrounds to personalize your page. We don’t have a regular website so I also wrote a little about our ceremony, reception and wedding party on there. Your guests can choose to pay by credit card (you will need to setup a paypal acct for this if you don’t have one), or they can choose to print a gift certificate and give you a check or cash. The website explains it all really well and has lots of sample registries you can look at. Paypal does take 3% fee to process the credit cards but this is the lowest I’ve seen.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I used honeyfund too. It was great and super easy to use.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We are using http://www.depositagift.com and it’s been perfect. They include a free wedding website for pictures and event details without paying an upgrade fee, so if a nicer site is of interest, you might like it. The other main thing i really liked is that they don’t use Paypal, but rather all gifts are paid for via credit card, just like regular online shopping. I’m not a fan of paypal or the IOU format of honeyfund, so this worked really well for us. deposit a gift has amazing customer service too –they send hand written notes (when was the last time that happened?!) and always call back whenever i have a question.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I used honeyfund as well.  I decided on the resort and location using tripadvisor first, then figured out what I’d like to put on the registry: travel expenses, hotel expenses, spa services, etc.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

yup! deposit a gift is great. i found them in the weddingwire registry area and also on a couple of blogs…style me pretty and oncewed i think…when i decided to finally use them i got a lot of ideas from other users here: http://www.depositagift.com/testimonials  and the other cool thing, since you were asking about how setup works, is that they have a thing called the Rapid Registry and they are basically a whole bunch of pre-made lists to help you create your registry, so you don’t have to think to hard :p   you can register for your honeymoon, or other stuff too. i’d definitely play around with it to see if it’s up your alley.

Post # 10
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Newbee

I’ve heard a few etiquette “experts” say that a honeymoon or cash registry is considered poor taste, that a wedding gift should be for your new life together as a couple.  However, I’ve heard some other people say it’s okay to have a honeymoon registry.  I’ve considered having one myself through WishingWell.com.  They charge a small fee when guests give an online gift, but it’s an overall good site which includes honeymoon fund and other items. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I love this idea! I thought about doing it. I think honeyfund sounds good.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Another website I have heard about is thehoneymoon.com, which is very similar to honey fund. I will definitely look into the DepositaGift website, just for alternative options.

Happy Hunting(:

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I used Honeyfund, and it worked out great.  Honestly we got more shower gifts from it, since our guests mostly just gave us checks for the wedding (no complaints).  But I think a lot of people were happy to give us “an experience” instead of just cash.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The one thing I would suggest is that you list physical things and experiences for people to buy you. Yes you can ask people to just ‘give you money towards the whole thing’ but alot of our guests appreciated being able to actually picks things out for us- champange on arrival at the hotel, a couples massage, a day trip here or there, dinnerat the local restuarant etc etc

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MuchGreater: I’m not saying you shouldn’t do this, I just want to make sure you understand a little better WHY it is considered poor etiquette to think this way–

Even by just having said “they are going to give a gift anyway,” you are showing that you are expecting gifts at the wedding. That is where the rudeness is.

While obviously, most people WILL give a gift at the wedding, to publicly say or even imply (like by having a “money registry” or including registry info with the invites) that you are expecting/hoping guests will bring gifts or money is rude. (from an etiquette standpoint.)

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