How to do this……..

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What would you do?
    Be traditional : (1 votes)
    10 %
    Stand his daughter and your son beside him and my two daughters by me : (7 votes)
    70 %
    Something else, please explain. : (0 votes)
    Just cause everyone else puts an option that says I like polls doesn't mean you have to. : (2 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 2
    7055 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I definitely think it should be his kids on his side and your kids on your side! I think the boy side / girl side “tradition” is less important when children of the bride or groom are involved.

    Of course you can mix it up and do lots of photos anyway. One thing I’ve seen a few times is the child(ren) standing in front of the bride and groom in some photos. That depends on how tall the children are though.

    Post # 3
    42166 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    MrsUPS:  I think you should do whatever the two of you think is best for you and your children.


    Post # 5
    1441 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    MrsUPS:  you’re worried about his daughter’a height?? Why?

    Post # 7
    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    MrsUPS:  Why not ask the kids for some input on the poses? They might really appreciate – especially the older ones – having a hand in the planning, and they might have some good ideas, too. Worried about a power struggle? Try it with the photographer present, so that s/he guides the discussion.

    I would definitely suggest taking some test shots on your own to see what you like. Line everyone up in your backyard or against a neutral backdrop (closed curtains would work) and take some shots with the self-timer and tripod. Don’t worry about how the photos themsleves turn out – you’re looking strictly at the overall composition. This will give you an idea of the lineup you prefer for your ceremony, too. I think the lineup would likely look most balanced with her next to her dad, but play around and see what you like. 

    It’s hard for me to say how I would shoot your wedding since I don’t know everyone’s heights and the kids’ ages. Given the height difference between you and your stepdaughter, I would try some shots with you and your husband seated and the kids around you, again keeping your stepdaughter on her dad’s side. I’m not sure of the ages and other heights involved, but you could stand the oldest two behind you and put the little ones on ottomans either in front or to the side of you. 

    Having the oldest girls seated on the floor (with the little ones standing or seated, depending) might be an option if they’re wearing floor-length gowns, though be careful as it could look a little dated. 

    I woul definitely consult with your photographer(s). They’ve certainly had to come up with creative solutions before, and I’m sure whatever you wind up doing will be beautiful 🙂

    Post # 9
    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    MrsUPS:  That sounds like a great opportunity! You could also think about having your son and your stepdaughter flanking you and your husband, respectively, with the two little girls (I’m assuming they’re the 8 & 10-year-olds) standing in front.

    Congratulations on your engagement, and wishing you all much happiness 🙂 

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