How to end an engagement

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
62 posts
Worker bee

That’s so rough. 🙁 Ultimately it might just be easiest to send out a mass email- it may be impersonal, but at least you won’t be salting a fresh wound everytime someone asks about it. As for gifts… if they’ve given you the receipts, you can return them and mail back the cash. Some people might not want their gifts back, and you can use them to start over again.

Post # 3
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

GirlWithTheGlassSlippers:  Sorry you are going through this, but so proud of you for standing up for yourself and not staying in this relationship or getting married just because you are embarassed to call it off.

People will be understanding. Any of them who have seen his behavior will be silently cheering your decision.

Do you have somone very close to you who you trust and could ask to take on the task of notifying family then the guest list? The purists will say that this is something you should do yourself, but it can be like re-opening a wound every time you have to say the words out loud. It can also be healing though, and strengthen your decision.

Otherwise, if you have email addresses, send one to everyone. Make sure you use blind copy.

Simply tell them that the engagement and wedding are off and apologize for any inconvenience.

Gifts should be returned. Again, this is a chore that someone close to you could help with.

Be strong. Have faith in yourself. Life will get better again.

Post # 4
4638 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Good for you for standing up for yourself. As hard is it will be to sort through these logistics, it will be a lot easier than spending your life with someone who makes it this difficult.

Contact someone close to you to help you sort it out. Don’t second guess yourself.

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