Post # 1
Ok confession time: I am not really enjoying my pregnancy.
I am, of course grateful I’ve had no complications and everything is developing normally and can’t wait to meet my baby, etc. I also want to point out that i do not regret getting pregnant, but with that said…
I miss my old body, I miss being super active, there’s a layer of fat developing all over, I keep dropping stuff, I’m starting to become forgetful, I’ve turned into a klutz, I’m gassy and can’t stop peeing and sometimes constipated, and I feel like all my insides are being squished so it’s a struggle to get comfortable. I can’t sleep and my back hurts.
On the bright side, my hair, skin, and nails have never looked better – ha, but is it normal to feel this way? Why do I seem to be in a funk and how can I change my attitude?
Post # 2
Some people just dont enjoy being pregnant. My mom has always said that she hated being pregnant, and if she didnt get awesome babies at the end she never would have gotten pregnant again after the first time. Another friend of mine gets HORRIBLE heart burn from day one of pregnancy (thats actually one of the signs that shes pregnant) that continues til she goes into labor, and medication thats safe for the baby dont seem to work for it. She has 3 kids though.
Its totally normal to not be pysched about being pregnant and wanting for it to be over. Just focus on the great prize at the end and bide your time. It’ll be done before you know it
Post # 3
Pregnancy does physically suck for a lot of people, so don’t feel bad. Just stay focused on the baby whenever you feel down about it. It won’t last forever!
Good thing is you’ll feel great afterwards! I had awful heartburn and horrible aches and pains through 75% of my pregnancy and once she came out it all stopped so fast.
Post # 4
I had a relatively easy pregnancy and I still hated almost every second of it- it is a major co tributing factor to why we will be one and done. I have been very frank and honest when people ask me how I am doing and you know what… Turns out a lot of people felt the same way and were just too afraid to admit it. Then of course you have the weirdos who love every second of it… Makes no sense to me! Just keep reminding yourself of how awesome it be at the end. You are getting the biggest reward of your life and on the plus side, you will instantly lose weight and feel closer to your old self once you deliver.. I dropped 20 pounds my first week post partum!
Post # 5
I was just thankful every day for the positive parts of my pregnancy. My first pregnancy was very difficult with kidney complications and a lot of pain, but I seriously loved every moment. I loved my body, I loved feeling her kick, I loved being lucky enough to be pregnant and experience it all.
I guess I just didn’t focus on the negatives? I found a sense of humour in all of the less glamourous parts of being pregnant and enjoyed people wanting to look after me… ’cause I knew in due time that was gonna end forever! lol
I am now pregnant with my second and struggling. I definitely don’t love it quite as much this time. I was very sick for 17 weeks straight..and now it seems my kidney issues are also returning. It’s also hard to keep up when I have a 2.5 year old to tend to all the time…I’m trying my best to enjoy every moment though!
LOTS of people do not enjoy pregnancy though. It’s exhausting and creates SO many changes. Don’t feel bad if you’re not enjoying it all..that’s normal!
Post # 6
I’m having a terrible pregnancy, but I just try to remind myself that this condition is temporary. Honestly, I don’t think there is anything else you can do. Maybe treat yourself to a nice prenatal massage?
Post # 7
I haven’t been pregnant, but if what my friends and family tell me is true, it’s completely normal to not enjoy being pregnant. Most of my friends and family have led me to believe that it’s not a pleasant experience for most people. Just something you go through to get a baby. So don’t feel bad that you aren’t all glowing-earth-mother. Focus on the positive aspects and get excited for the baby. And, luckily, these pregnancy symptoms are temporary!
Post # 8
Diamondgurl: I love my son but I hated being pregnant. And I had an easy pregancy other than delivering 7 weeks early that is. I hated all the stuff you said the forgetfullness, the being a klutz, not being able to do stuff on my own. But I can honestly say I would do it again. My son is so worth it
Post # 9
Totally normal. I am so happy and grateful to be pregnant, but it hasn’t been fun physically. I miss my body and being able to move around freely, being comfortable and being able to sleep. I have a lot of back and kidney problems, so that hasn’t helped. But I do love feeling him kick and I’m sure I’ll miss that in a couple weeks when its over 🙂
Post # 10
I hated it both times, but totally loved the 2 babies I got out of the process! 🙂 The good news is, it is totally worth it. Until they are 3; then you question your sanity….just kidding.:-) They are always worth it!!!
Post # 11
Diamondgurl: Yes it’s normal. I was in a funk like this for basically the first 4 months of pregnancy. The things that have helped me the most include:
- Writing down EVERYTHING. EVERY-THING! I can’t remember anything and I’ve learned to accept it…especially after forgetting really important things a couple of times.
- Finding ways to look good which always helps me to feel good. I focused on finding clothes that fit my body well and also mesh with my personal style. I am not in the mood to break the bank so I found that Target, Ann Taylor Loft (for a splurge), and Old Navy work best for me. I wear cute colorful flats from Payless in a wider size and I’m good to go! Since doing this I’ve gotten a lot of compliments that really help to boost my mood.
- Exercise. Just like it helps you when you’re not pregnant, it totally helps to boost your mood when you’re pregnant. When I started walking and taking yoga classes, I felt stronger, more confident and more in control of my body. And it gives me a safe place to just be pregnant without feeling like everyone is watching me. The other people in my yoga class are all pregnant too so we’re all a little off balance and awkward and it’s great.
- Talk about it. When I feel crappy, I talk to my husband and he ALWAYS helps me to feel better. It really helps to get it out too.
I’m 5 months and 3 weeks and I just started feeling good emotionally so I get it. Give it time. Work on these things, and it should help a little.
Post # 12
One thing that has helped me enjoy my pregnancy is staying mindful and journaling about the baby’s growth and development. I have this book called “Sacred Pregnancy” and each week there is space to journal about a different topic or theme. It reminds me of all the special happenings.
Post # 13
I hated being pregnant, but I just kept telling myself that I could do anything for nine months. My DD was more then worth it!
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
Diamondgurl: When I saw this thread I was hoping that I was gonna learn some great secret of how to enjoy being pregnant! I’m only about a month along and every morning I think, “I can’t do 9 months of this!” lol.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I would concentrate on being grateful and the fact that you won’t be pregnant and feel like this forever. For what it’s worth, there are thousands of women who are struggling to conceive who would trade places with you in a heartbeat, back aches and constipation included. Stay positive and focused on the excitement of starting your family. That baby will be here before you know it.