How to Enjoy Your Singleness

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
10886 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Overjoyed:  Because I didn’t finally meet the right  guy until I was in my mid-forties, this was something that I definitely needed to do, and did. Singleness affords women so many options that being married does not, although there certainly are many wonderful benefits of being married.

I enjoyed pursuing my career without having to worry about the hours I worked affecting a husband or family, traveling by myself and with my girl friends or mom, hanging out with my girl friends, spending money on things that I wanted for myself and my home, decorating the way that I wanted to, and, most important, focusing on my individual relationship with God. 

Obviously, with only ten weeks to go until your wedding, you probably don’t have the opportunity to do much traveling, and, given that you and your FI are already well into planning your future together, you probably don’t want to make too many purchases or decorating decisions without his input. However, you may want to plan a short, fun trip with a friend or treat yourself to something special, and focus on these last precious weeks of being a single woman in terms of your faith walk. 

Whatever you decide to do, enjoy! 🙂

Post # 4
1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

DIY wedding projects.

Post # 6
3806 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Overjoyed:  i eat cheese and wine for dinner sometimes. sometimes i substitute the cheese for popcorn. 

walk around in my old but comfy unmentionables… things like that lol 

oh! and i drink straight from some containers in my refrigerator like a dude. lol oh single life.

Post # 9
6951 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Overjoyed:  Let’s see… I live with SO so I’ll tell you what I miss from before we lived together/what I do when he isn’t around:

Spend the entire weekend never getting out of my pajamas.

eat icecream out of the container.

eat pasta (SO can’t, so we never have it)

text my friends from bed.

Hang at my friend’s house until it’s too late to drive home and just crash there instead.

Blast music and dance around while I clean.

Get in bed, set up my laptop and eat while browsing the web.

Leave half finished projects in the middle of the livingroom (possibly for weeks).

Man… my SO really does make me a better person 😛 

Post # 10
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Ehmmmmm….I do all of the above in front of SO! Tattered PJs and smeared makeup? Check! Beer & chips for dinner? Then followed up by ice cream straight out of the container? Check! Teen Mom re-runs all weekend and a box of chocolates? Yep!!

I mean…the first few weeks I didn’t, but the real me came out soon enough 😀 

Post # 11
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well consdering I lived with DH for a year and a half before getting married, nothing really changed as far as my “singleness”. I generally think that’s a bunch of bull and people use it as an excuse (both men and women) to do stupid things.

Don’t worry about it!

Post # 14
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Overjoyed:  That makes sense. I know that people told me to “enjoy being engaged” while I could, but I was so exhausted from wedding planning, that I wanted just to get to the wedding day itself. I don’t regret feeling that way – my wedding day was amazing, and I loved every single moment of it. I don’t regret not ‘enjoying my singleness’ more – I don’t feel like I missed out on anything at all – I did everything exactly as I wanted to, and was perfectly happy doing so.

I think you are right – it is just a mindset. 

Post # 15
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If I hadn’t already have lived with my DH for 84,000 years before we got married I know what I’d have done.

1. Gone to sleep with the radio on every night.

2. Slept in the middle of the bed with both dogs either side of me every night.

3. Ordered in takeaway – (or take out as I believe it is known in the US) – at least once a week.


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