Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2014 - The Windsor at Hebron Park
So me and my hubby have been together 8 years, married for 4 months this October 7th! We have always had a pretty good sex life, but I have always been the shy one in the relationshp, and I’m not sure why. I have a hard time relaxing during sex, and feel insecure about certain positions or making too much noise. I genuinely do enjoy our intimate time, but I think I am missing the romantic connection. Sometimes it’s just “Wham bam, thank you ma’am” which is totally fine, but I would like to be more emotional and in tune with my hubby during sex. Has anyone out there felt this way? I hope I’m not totally weird because I’m feeling this way.
Post # 2
Yeah every now and again I fall into this and I think its quite common. I think its because it starts to feel a little more routine than romantic and spontaneous. So when I realise that I’m starting to rush through it or it feels a little stale I make more effort. I start by initiating sex more often and at different times in the day, putting on nice lingerie to feel like I’m making more of an effort etc. Try switching up positions and tell yourself to really get into them if you feel you’ve kept to the same position the last couple times. Whatever conditions you usually tend to have sex in (night/day, lights on/lights off, music on/off) do the opposite. It will feel new again and makes you remember why you want to have sex in the first place. Another thing is when you’re having sex, I find that I often shut my eyes, so when I notice myself do this I then consciously open my eyes and stare into his. Always feels much more romantic.
Post # 3
Misdameanor: conversation really helps me feel more connected. A book that helped our relationship and connection is “His Needs/Her Needs”. Its about relationships much more than sex and really helped with our relationship.
Post # 4
Communication is the best for any relationship. Also try to experiment on new things. It is also cool if open this up to him