Post # 1
So I’m 12 weeks pregnant, and feeling pretty awful. I have always been a size 10-12 (AUS), and always had a little belly/hips. Four months before we found out we were having a baby I got stuck right into the gym, went 3 times a week and felt AMAZING!
Now I haven’t been in 6 weeks, due to morning sickness, fatigue and hypotension 🙁 So I basically feel flabby and yuck. It didn’t bother me at first as I was so sick that I had ZERO sex drive, but now it’s coming back and I feel so un-sexy!
My point here is, how can I (how have others) make myself feel better about these changes? I know having a baby is amazing, and such a miracle, but I have always been self conscious of my tummy and hips. Don’t get me wrong, I am SO happy to be pregnant, but this side of it is a real struggle..
Any suggestions would be great. I really would appreciate no negative comments on this. Thanks Bees! 🙂
Post # 3
Oh wow- sorry no one’s commented on this. Maybe it should be moved to the pregnancy board.
I’m 24 weeks pregnant and have to say, my *best* pregnancy sex didn’t come until the 2nd trimester. The first I was too busy hurling, cramping, just feeling icky all over and not at all turned on. It seemed to get better by the 2nd trimester. Now I’m getting a bit big verging on the 3rd trimester and my sex drive has plummeted. Not to mention I’ve already started lactating- sexy, no? lol
My advice would be not to be too hard on yourself. Some women find their sex drive increases and decreases suddenly during pregnancy due to hormones. You may have awesome sex soon- or you may just not feel turned on due to this. That’s normal and ok. Also the growing size can really be an emotion-killer, I understand that all too well!
I feel about as sexy as a used kleenex right now- BUT I have learned to cope by taking good care of my body and lathering on the body butter to keep my skin soft and smooth. 🙂 Doing a little extra for your hair, nails or body in general really has helped me get through the emotions of getting bigger. Some men actually prefer the curves of pregnancy! You may find your SO if more attracted to you now even if you feel like hell. I think there’s something chemical that makes men more attracted to women when they are carrying their baby. Hope that helps!
Post # 4
I agree that you’ll probably get a lot more comments on the pregnancy board!
As for feeling sexy… I had absolutely no desire to have sex from about 8-12 weeks. My body felt foreign and weird and I was bloated and couldn’t stay awake if I tried. I can’t really say I feel “sexy” like I did before I got pregnant but my husband makes up for it. Sorry if this is TMI! But he wants me now more than ever and he wants to see everything. Keeping clothes on is not an option for him. I was very open with telling him about how awful I felt about my body so he had a heads up to not joke about certain things! But there’s no faking how attracted most men are towards their wives carrying a baby they made. As for me, I know I shave my legs much more often than I ever have and dress a lot more cute and that helps me feel better about myself.
Talk to your husband and share how you feel and see how it goes! It’s strange having your body change so drastically and hormones don’t help!