Post # 1
Dress regret is obviously a major topic of conversation here. I myself have a love/hate relationship with my dress. Some days I love it, some days I hate it.
My question for you is what tactics do you use to ward off feeling regret about the dress you bought?
I obviously try to focus on the aspects of my dress that drew me to it begin with (the shape, how flattering it is, the price (!!)) but sometimes that just is not enough.
Lately, I have been trying to use some other strategies. For example, I deicded to use my dress as the inspiration for our wedding cake design. I think that if I can get excited about certain details of the dress to use in the cake design, I will be excited about the dress. I am also going to use my dress as inspiration for some of my DIY projects (the seating chart and chair skirts, etc.).
Has anyone else come up with some little games for yourself to keep from hating your dress?
Post # 3
sorry. i wish i knew how to do this.
–from the girl who bought a total of five wedding dresses and three rehearsal dinner dresses.
Post # 4
It helps to STOP looking at other wedding dresses all together. Do not cheat on your dress! You are now in a committed relationship, and it’s time to act like it! No day dreaming of what you’d want instead, no window shopping, no browsing other dress threads, nothing.
Instead, find one great thing about your dress each day, and if need be, try it on. Don’t look at photos of yourself in the dress, because that’s what lead to my dress regret. It was way better in person than in photos. And fit is everything. Just keep all that in mind.
Post # 5
@MiamiLove13: When I bought my dress I stopped looking at other bridal gowns. I have a friend who bought her dress but kept looking at other gowns, major mistake. She had horrible dress regret for no reason might I add. When given the choice between her dress and five others she always went back to her dress. She just stressed herself out for no reason.
Post # 6
@StuporDuck: I think you are definitely right about the photos. I deleted all photos of me in my dress (and other dresses). The more I looked at them, the more I hated my dress.
@Mrs.Goguen: I don’t look at other dresses (except when I read articles in bridal magazines). But not looking at dresses doesn’t really help me. For me, dress regret comes from the dress itself and thinking of the other dresses I tried on.
Post # 7
@MiamiLove13: You are not alone I am currently feeling this way too! My dress hasn’t come in yet…. Due in in fri and I keep finding myself staring at the pic of me in the sample dress over analyzing every single detail….. I never thought I’d be one to do this and didnt start out this way…. Mine started just this week when a previous store I visited called me this weekend telling me that they got in the dress I was previously wanting to try……. So ever since this weekend I’m creating things wrong with my dress I think to create a reason to try that dress!
I know frequenting the dress board is something I should avoid but keep telling myself what if….. Just know u are not alone!!!
Post # 8
I had dress regret up until the morning of my wedding, I’m not exaggerating at all.
I think throughout our engagement and my planning I just continued to remind myself of how I felt when I bought the dress. I felt giddy, elated and overwhelmed with excitement which was different than how I felt at any other dress appointment. I had tried on over 100 dresses and only that dress convinced me to make a purchase. It was unlike what I thought I wanted but it was also more amazing than anything else I had tried on.
As I have mentioned before you will see a lot of dresses online and on WB. There will be gorgeous dresses and dresses you dislike. In the end just because you like a dress doesn’t mean it is best for you, it doesn’t mean it is YOUR dress.
If you can I would suggest going back to the boutique whenever you feel overwhelmed with doubt…that is what I did. They were very understanding and willing to let me see my dress in person. Just those visits got me past the doubt for a bit.
Post # 9
@StuporDuck: LOL, brilliant advice and I love the way you worded this!
I have dress regret too. My dress is gorgeous but I just wish I had known about one other dress before making my choice. If only I had gotten to try that one on and then decided. Sigh!