How to follow up with people who haven't RSVPed

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@coffeeeeee:  You put the person on the spot. Call them. They’re making YOU uncomfortable, why should you feel bad? Or have FI and/pr your parents help as well. They’re the a**holes for not responding.

Post # 4
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@coffeeeeee:  Well you need to know, right?  Just give them a call and say “hey, we need to give the final number to the vendors for the wedding and never got an RSVP from you.  Will you be able to attend?”

 

Yea, you’re putting them on the spot, but you kind of have to.  If they can’t attend and didn’t want to feel awkward telling you- they should have sent the RSVP back!

Post # 5
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@coffeeeeee:  by the way…is yours a destination wedding?  If it’s not until August 24, it IS quite early for an RSVP deadline to have passed already.  It is possible that some guests still do not know if they can attend or not, due to childcare, getting off work, etc.  Why so early?

 

Post # 7
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42472 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@coffeeeeee:  Send an email to each person or Blind copy them all on one email. Tell them that the time has passed for you to give your numbers to the caterer and unless you hear from them by______ (give them 2 days) you will have to assume they are unable to attend and will miss them at the wedding.

You are being overly sensitive about their feelings. They are the ones who should have been worried about the position they put you in.

Post # 8
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@coffeeeeee:  if they haven’t replied to the invite, I don’t think they’re any more likely to reply to an email. I would just call and get it over with. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward. 

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