Post # 1
Or a book I should apparently be writing because according to the gossip in my neighborhood discussing marriage and purchasing your ring setting means you are then forcing your boyfriend to marry you. Seriously!!!! Sometimes I want to tell people to take a flying leap. If after 4 years he doesn’t know that he wants to marry me then we have more issues then me “pushing” him into marriage.
Why do people suck?
Post # 3
Insecurity is exactly why people suck, they are insecure about their own relationships which is exacly why they feel the need to project their issues onto yours. I feel sorry for those type of people, they must have really sad lives.
Post # 4
People love drama… and if there isn’t any they’ll create it. Sooo lame :/
Post # 5
@tksjewelry:Me too. I just can’t understand why anyone ever feels the need to make that statement. Especially since I have a hunch it came from a close family member from my SO’s side. People Suck!
Post # 6
@MsBrooklynA: Oy vey
People suck because they have nothing better to do than to use their ignorance to generalize people’s lives so that it can be fodder for their gossip and entertain themselves with what little they can conjure up. Jebus, since when has having a voice in your relationship pegged you as an overbearing shrew?
I will personally tell them to take a flying leap. Just gimme a time and a place.
Post # 7
People suck because they have boring small lives.
Forcing your boyfriend to marry you involves equipment such as handcuffs, lassos, and guns.
Post # 8
@Tunacupcakes: hehe lassos lmao.
Post # 9
@Bellanouva:I’m seriously irritated at how small people can be sometimes. The friend I was talking about said he heard that I had picked out my own ring and made it sound like I had castrated my cat as a sacrafice to Jesus… Not quite buddy.
@Enchanted1:People do love drama. My motto: Fuck em’
@Tunacupcakes:Exactly! If I had made him ask me to marry him I would think I would be engaged by now not?
Post # 10
If I had forced my FI to propose to me, we’d be married by now with a little one on the way LOL.
Post # 11
i didnt force my hubby to marry me – i simply told him thats how its was going to be so get me my ring dammit and get with the program…. fortunately hes a good natured guy that said ok honey, which one 🙂
people think im a bit of a ball breaker but little do they know what its like behind closed doors – hes def the man of the house
Post # 12
I’m not yet ‘engaged’ but, my boyfriend and I have always known we were going to get married. We talked about it all the time, and we’ve been together for 2 1/2 years now. He hints all the time that we are going to get engaged soon…VERY soon. He told me once when he plans on proposing, and it happens to be this summer! I have been un-officially planning our wedding for a year. Just gathering ideas of where, and what, it will look like.
Recently I began looking at rings online, as I don’t want a diamond ring. I love blue topaz rings and I found some great gemstone rings, and e-mailed him the list! He even sat down with me to hear what I loved the most, and what I ultimately wanted in my ring. So…technically we’re not engaged yet. Everyone knows we’re going to get married, and him and I both plan on getting married next July! So technically, someone could say that I am “pushing” him into it, but it’s not like that at all. He wants to get married just as much as I do, and he knows if for one second he didn’t feel the same as I do, he could put the brakes on at any moment.
I’m not fond of ‘gossipers’ anyway, and nobody truly knows your relationship, like the 2 of you do! Some guys need hints anyway, and I’m sure your FI wouldn’t propose if he truly didn’t want to! Sorry about the clucking hens, but who cares what they think! Best of luck to the two of you!
Post # 13
I hear ya. I recently told some friends and family that the bf and I are most likely getting engaged this summer. Their response? “How do you know that? What do you mean you discussed it? You must be pressuring him or forcing him in some way.” I want to scream! Seriously…marriage is a HUGE commitment. Of course we have discussed whether it is a mutual goal! Of course we have set a timeline! It’s NOT just HIS decision. It’s NOT just HIS life. It’s also my decision and my life. I agree that no woman should manipulate or coerce her bf into marrying her. However, I am shocked by the fact that the majority of the population appears to think that having a discussion about marriage and setting a timeline amounts to coercion or “forcing him to marry you.”
Post # 15
Ignore those people. Their life sucks, so they have to try to make someone else’s life worse off to make themselves feel better.
Everytime I see that, i just wonder how DO you force a man to do something he doesn’t want to do? You can’t. Not the men I know anyway.
Post # 16
Also, people are saying were already engaged. No we are not. People seriously just need to zip it. This really makes me distrust some of my cloes friends. I hate people!
@WineAndCupcakes:Exactly! Apparently I’m not very good at forcing him to do things because were not engaged.
@eloping: There is nothing wrong with telling your SO what you want. I am so confused at how having a discussion about marriage makes a girl a ball breaker or pushy or what ever. If you aren’t discussing marriage before getting married I don’t have a lot of faith in your relationship.
@jackndiane: This! We discuss marriage ALL the time! With my parents being divorced since I was a month old I have a lot of concerns about the way marriage can go. We want to be sure that the other person is 100% committed and know what eachothers fears are and work to fix them now before it is permanent.
@MsMamaBear: That’s what I told this kid. My SO would never let me force him into ANYTHING. He will do things in his own way at his own pace and non of my ever so quite suggestions of marriage will move my engagement up any quicker.