(Closed) How to forget you’re waiting when it’s all weddings and babies around you

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m having a tough time too especially after a not so great conversation this weekend. Sometimes it does feel like it’s never going to be you, and honestly I’ve started questioning how this can be right when the process has been so abnormal (dragging his feet, taking so long to make this decision, etc.) I’m kind of at the point where I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m just floating along at the moment not quite ready yet to make the hard choices.

Sorry to hear you’re feeling similarly. I guess this post isn’t much help but just letting you know you’re not alone.

Post # 4
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450 posts
Helper bee

@Isilme: I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing these feelings because I know how incredibly difficult it is to be in that type of situation.  I also have days where I feel like I’m the only girlfriend around–a prime example being last night when I went to dinner with my SO and several of his coworkers, who all brought their wives along, two of them pregnant.  I felt very weird being introduced as his girlfriend when we’re all in the same age group and I’m sure I’ve been with my SO longer than some of his coworkers have even known their wives.  

Sorry for the rant…..but my point being I know how you feel, and I know it can be very hurtful to be in that position.  I really don’t have any particular advice, but just know that these feelings will pass.  I truly hope that your SO makes your wishes come true very soon!

Post # 6
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

@Isilme: “he is also one of those people who will wait even longer to do somathing, even if he wants to do it, if someone else just did it.  Kinda like if he’s about to take out the trash, but I ask him before he does it, he doesn’t want to do it anymore, so when everyone, including his little brother got engaged, he even made the comment that even if he had everything ready he couldn’t do it then, becuse it’d just be “copying”.”

OMFG that is one of THE MOST annoying things about guys!!!!  My SO does stuff like that allllll the time.  If I suggest something it’s like he HAS TO say that doesn’t sound good because I suggested it and HE has to come up with the idea for it to be good!  It’s like the My Big Fat Greek Wedding mother says that women are in charge but you have to learn how to make the man think it was his idea and that he appears in charge.  Ughhhhhhhh!

Post # 7
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450 posts
Helper bee

@Isilme: Aw, thanks for the supportive words! I wish you all the best too!

Post # 8
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510 posts
Busy bee

How to forget you’re waiting…. drink some wine 🙂  Go out with single friends…. get some space from your bf if possible.  Ugh… I’ve so been there and I know it can be sucky… So do something fun for yourself!

 

Post # 9
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

aww.  I always think you’re so strong for sticking it through for so long, so patiently. You’re my model bee!  Hang in there.

Post # 10
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Aww I’m sorry you feel that way *hugs* It sucks waiting and see all these people getting engaged, married, etc before you. PMS does not help either, that’s for sure.

I agree with @MCC919:, go and have a drink with some single friends and you won’t have to worry about engagement talk. HAve a drink, see a non-romantic movie, anything that won’t bring up marriage talk. Good luck and I’m hoping we get to see your proposal/ring porn soon 🙂

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