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Here's what you tell him:
He's lucky that he got the girl first,
because if the girl came after the boy,
she would would be (eventually obviously) going out with all the older brother's friends.
He'll be glad about that. ;-)
@kmsw: Omg, that is so true.
@aajune2011: Tell him that he can teach his daughter all of that stuff! When I was really little I used to go with my dad to the shooting range. I know girls who like to hunt and fish, too, and girls definitely like playing baseball growing up.
My dad used to want a boy, too, but I think I shadowed him around enough to fill that void ;). I used to watch him fix his cars and we would play basketball together, which was his favorite.
hahaha very true =-) i think that is one of the reasons he doesn't want a girl because he will have to deal with guys once she is dating.
I'm worried about this happening with my FI someday. He says he wants a boy first so that he can help protect a little sister from all of the boys out there. I agree with what jo.lee said. My dad used to take me fishing and I played baseball. I was still pretty girly though. I used to want to wear an Easter dress every darn day and have tea parties with my stuffed animals. Unfortunately for my mom I used to go on my uncle's four wheeler in those Easter dresses. 
I'm sure as you get closer to your due date he'll get more excited. Try bringing up all the special things he can do with a daughter. Maybe you could make a scrap book that can be filled with photos of the two of them in years to come? A page for a daddy daughter dance for instance might be cute.
Take him shopping to pick her out a jersey from his favorite sports team.
I was such a tomboy and still have a lot of interest in "boy" things, like mountain biking, building stuff, etc... I was my dad's helper when he remodeled our house, and I know how to sweat pipes for pluming, wire an outlet and put up sheetrock. I played sports growing up, went fishing, etc... And... I never dated my younger brother's friends!
There's nothing saying she will or won't grow up to be a girly girl, but regardless she will love him so much and always look up to him to make things right in her world.
Yup PPs gave some good advice.
Tell him that my parents had me first, then my little bro. I watch football with my Dad every Sunday while my brother goes to Broadway musicals with my mom.
Hahaha okay, so that probably isn't helpful, but what I'm trying to say is that you never know how your kids will end up! I am sure your daughter will love fishing/hunting/playing catch with her dad!! I sure did! :D
@aajune2011: Gosh i remember when my boss's wife was first pregnant and they found out it was a girl! he was devestated - since then they have a had another girl and he says its the best thing that has ever happened to him - so much so that they have opted to stop there. him and his girls...its really sweet.
My dad had 3 girls before he finally got his boy - my brother is 10 months younger than me so it was a nice surprise (literally) for them :)
My husband was the same when we found out it was a girl, but I'm happy to say he loves our little girl SO much now it is insane. He has actually said out loud that he would never trade her for a boy - that he can't imagine having any other baby. He even says now that he wouldn't mind having all girls. He also has admitted that he loves cuddling and kissing our little baby girl and wouldn't feel as comfortable doing that with a boy. I know your DH will come around - mine did in a big way!
Have you ever heard the old saying, "Women become mothers when they find out they're pregnant; men become fathers when they see their child for the first time"? Imo, it's so true. The moment my husband laid eyes on our daughter, he was just head over heels. :)
I say, give him a little time to come around on his own. Just like women, men can feel gender disappointment, too. In his own time, he'll figure out how wonderful a daughter can be, but at first he might just need a little time and space to realize how much he's gaining, instead of focusing on what he's losing.
I'm having the same issues w/ my husband, so I can relate. I have to say though, he's slowly coming around. He's started talking about his "girls" -- me and baby :-) I told him he can still play with trains, cars, radios, and computers with our daughter, which calmed him down a bit. I think he was mostly worried that he had a lifetime of dolls and playing house to look forward to.
I went camping and hiking and fishing with my dad all the time when I was a kid. Then he got to send me to dance class and get some alone time. I think a little girl is the best of both worlds for a dad.
You won't need to do anything. He will be wrapped around her little finger the moment she is born!
My SO wanted a boy. We were Team Green so we had a wait. Once he saw her, she became his little princess.)
When he sees her, he'll love her.
My DH wanted a girl so bad, he was the opposite when we found out we were having a boy. It took him a while to get used to the idea, lol
He's going to love his daugter so much and she's just going to adore him. We're using my dad's name as our son's middle name. I insisted. I'm my parents' first child and my dad is my hero, he's the best!
I was going to say the same thing as the other posters, girls can do all the boy things too! My hubby always talks about how he will teach our baby girl how to play all sorts of sports. I tell him that's fine, as long as she wants to do it he can teach her whatever he wants.
When she comes he won't have a choice but to fall in love! My BIL even does daddy daugher ballet with his little girl! Can't wait to find that around here when my baby grows up!
Let him know that any younger brothers that she may have are lucky because they can ask their older sister for advice on girls ;) That's how it worked in my house LOL!
I'm one of five--the first four of us are girls (our little brother was a surprise). It drives me bonkers when people think Girl=Princess, Boy=Sports. It's not like that at all!
You should encourage your husband to think more creatively about the experiences he'll have with his kids, whether they're sons or daughters. There is no rule that states all girls are going to spend the first sixteen years of their lives in pepto colored tutus, and all boys are going to be football-toting mini-Conans.
They're your children--you'll love them and create wonderful memories with them, no matter what the sex!
DH was disappointed for a minute too, but he got over it quickly.
Tell him he can totally teach a daughter to do all of those things. I have 2 older brothers and I was always the kid that went fishing and camping and stuff with my dad. My brothers were never that into it. I still consider fishing me and my dad's special activity together.
The woman becomes a mom the second she gets pregnant. The man becomes a dad once the child is born. They are not as connected since it's not happening to them. He will get on board with it just let him do it on his own time and trust me his slight disappointment will be over shawdowed by sheer joy when he sees her.
I LOVED going fishing and small game hunting with my dad. I was probably 6 when I got my first squirrel with a bow and arrow. I was four when our neighbor got a deer and was gutting it in the front yard, and my dad went out with me and IDed all the body parts and what they were for (my dad then said "So, want to go watch Bambi?" I cackled.) I was the one who helped my dad find worms for fishing. And my dad ran our 4-H Conservation unit - which involved a lot of bug catching, woods walking, camping, etc. I know how to make a shelter with only a trash bag and a length of twine in under two minutes, how to tie fishing flies/make my own pole, catch and ID snakes, kill turtles, make knives, craft furniture, split logs, shoot guns... I have no hand/eye coordination, so I sucked at sports (save soccer), but I still played them with my brother. Everything my dad did with my brother, he also did with me. So he can do all that stuff with a girl, and she'll most likely LOVE it! (Sadly, my brother doesn't know as much about sewing/embroidery as I do - but he knows how to use a sewing machine and sew by hand.)
Take him shopping for baby girl clothes. My fiance didn't care either way, as long as baby was healthy. BUT... oh my goodness watching that man look at cute little baby girl dresses.... and then, when we got to the socks done up on forms, he was done for. lol
Girls totally do that stuff, too...but most of them aren't lucky enough to have dads that care enough to teach them anything.
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so today I find out that it looks like we are having a girl! although, i am super excited. Husband is a little bummed. He says its always been his dream to have a boy first, and he always talked about taking it hunting and fishing and teaching him how to play baseball all of his favorite things. I know he will love it even more when she gets here and she will definitely be a daddys girl, but how do I get him to be excited now, like I am? it may not be possible, but I just don't want him so dissapointed. maybe he just needs to get used to it. any tips???