Post # 1
Since Fiance really only job for planning our wedding is to plan our honeymoon. He knows what places that I would love to go. When I ask him where he wants to go, all I get back is “I don’t know.”
Grrrr, getting a tad frustrated, I rather not be sitting home the week after our wedding. We both have the time off and plan on doing a honeymoon. But he is driving me batty with the “I don’t know” answer when I bring it up. And the subject isn’t brought up to often.
It isn’t like I want to go all out for a honeymoon. Personally I would be happy if we went camping for a week. I just want to spend time away with my new husband.
Post # 3
I’d be totally frustrated too!
Maybe you could narrow it down for him. Get the facts on the two places you most want to go and then get him to choose out of the two. If he STILL won’t choose, maybe make it into a game. Would you rather go skiing or snorkeling? Would you prefer better scenery or better food? And then tally it up and see what you come up with.
I think that even though this is his only wedding related job, you should maybe take over the initial decisions to get him started unless you want to spend a week at home. Men can be so frustrating sometimes:(
Post # 4
ya, i would just book it myself and run it by him first if that is how he is being.
Post # 5
maybe he’s got everything planned and just wants to surprise you. I’ve had a couple of my friends’ hubbys pull this on them. (:
Post # 6
Thought about that, but figured since I am doing all the other wedding planning he could at least do that. The list that I have/had for honeymoon’s isn’t to long.
Just is annoying..
Post # 7
Why is this his job alone? Are you just trying to be “traditional” or are you really looking to be surprised, or you just don’t have time to worry about it?
We planned ours together. I think it would be really hard to come up with a vacation for two people all on my own. Especially if you’re in a situation where you don’t go on vacations every year, or more often. It kind of feels like a now or never kind of thing, so you’d want to get it perfect.
I’d go over with him again whether you want to do beach, city, skiing, and narrow it down a bit. I’m sure he just really wants you to be happy, and is feeling a bit paralyzed by all the options.
Post # 8
The list of places is about 6 differ places. It isn’t his job alone but thought it would be the easiest for him to tackle since he could care less about what the decorations look like or the other little wedding stuff.
As for surprise, that is sooo not him. Basically he is just dragging his feet which is okay but kinda least would like to know where he would like to go since he knows where I would like to go. We don’t need to book now, but it would be a nice idea or feeling to know where he would like to go. That is the most frustrating thing.
The places have told him would like to go:
Hawaii-Ideally would love to go there but out of our budget.
Back to Yellowstone, we went there a year and half ago.
Glacier National Park
Lusten-Lake Superior resort
Post # 9
Maybe he’s trying to make Hawaii work, but doesn’t want to get your hopes up until he gets a bit closer?
Post # 10
That’s frustrating. Maybe it would help to ask him to decide small details one at a time and give him a deadline, reminding him that the time is coming soon. Maybe say, okay, what length of time do you want to spend on the honeymoon and let him hash that out mostly. Then follow up with “it’s good to get plane tickets as fuel prices are about to go up, should we fly or drive somewhere?”. It might be that the whole process is overwhelming. Though I like the idea that he’s trying to surprise you with something. Guys can be a lot more romantic than us girls!