How to get my gifts home?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
3223 posts
Sugar bee

@steferz91:  Most polite etiquette calls for sending gifts to the brides home before or after the wedding not bringing them to the event.  Though in modern times guests have forgone this and brought the gifts to the actual event. 

For the wedding I suppose most people will gift cash  as they will know you are living out of state.

Honestly, I would suggest not having a shower if you cannot deal with actual items.  You can instead have a ladies luncheon to celebrate, but without the expectation of gifts.  This would at least reduce the #s you have to transport.

Most national chains offer shipping to the store closest to the recipient, Which could also work for wedding gifts.

Post # 4
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@steferz91:  I had a friend that requested that the gifts be mailed to the couple’s home and I dont think its that big of an issue since most people do shop online

Post # 5
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@steferz91:  I would suggest registering at stores that allow purchases to be made online or in store to be picked up at your local store.  If you have a shower you can have the organizers suggest that people put a picture of the item in a card for you (that’s what my family does with large items that are hard to wrap or ship).  It’s not quite as exciting as opening the real thing but it’s far more practical.

The other option is to return the items at the store where your wedding is, get the gift cards, keep a list of what you had, and then buy it all again with the gift cards when you get home (that’s a lot of work).  Shipping will probably get expensive.

Post # 6
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641 posts
Busy bee

If you have an online registry, have the receiving address be your new home in Texas (or a friend’s house/ future office, whatever) Everything else, you’ll be shipping, just as though you were moving cross country. 

Post # 7
Member
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We had the same dilemma, and we solved it nicely by using simpleregistry.com. It was really easy and totally fun to just select items from anywhere we wanted, and we could also set up a charity contribution option for any guests who were so inclined.

I know there is some controversy over these types of registries, since technically they are just cash registries that charge a fee, but it really was the best option for our situation. We chose to shoulder the fee ourselves and not ask guests to pay the cost of the item plus the 2% or whatever (although with taxes/shipping they would end up paying extra money anyways on a traditional registry).

We also told guests that if they didn’t want to select something off the registry, they could send a gift to one of my relatives’ house for safekeeping until we were ready to pick it up.

Post # 8
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1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

Unless you want to pay for them all to be shipped, I think you’re in a tough position.  Fly out and drive a rental back?

 

Post # 9
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42546 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@orchidblooms:  Are you the only one from Illinois who will be attending the wedding? If not, you could ask others to help.

You can return the gift to the store from which they were purchased and re-purchase them locally when you get home.

Post # 10
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8708 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I took them back to the store they were purchased from. Many stores accepted them and then had a warehouse ship the item to my home. I also packed some in my luggage (The unbreakable sentimental things) and had a few shipped.

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