Post # 1
Hoping someone can come up with an inventive solution to this one! Dh and I are going to start TTC next cycle. Unfortunately, a while back, my dad and I bought each other indoor sky diving (basically ‘flying’ in a vertical wind tunnel) vouchers for each other for Christmas and they have to be used by 12th Jan. There’s a very slight chance I’ll be pregnant by Jan (O possibly around 27th Dec), but I won’t know either way as it’ll be too early to test. I’ve contacted the Indoor Skydiving place and they’ve said that they do not advise people who are TTC or are knowingly pregnant to take part due to the pressure on the stomach from the wind and the small chance of bouncing off the floor of the tunnel (basically like a giant trampoline).
Anyway, Dad’s assuming we’ll go after Christmas with it being a Christmas present, and when I broached going before Christmas he said his diary was pretty much completely full. I don’t want to tell them we’re TTC, mainly because I think that’s something between me and dh and also because if we struggle to get pregnant I don’t want to also have to deal with disappointed parents, plus them trying to work out if we are or aren’t everytime they see us (I don’t intend telling anyone before 12 or 13 weeks apart from dh and my doctor if we do get pregnant). I’m also extremely loath to put off TTC for a month. I’ve been waiting for so long already (didn’t meet dh until I was already 30) and am worried about my age, I was 33 in September. I know 33 isn’t too unusual for 1st pregnancies these days, but all our families previous generations has children young and there were problems conceiving on dh’s parents side, so who knows how long it will take us. Plus we’ve always planned on having 2 children, so the later I have number 1, the riskier number 2 would be. (Also it’s a bit silly, but if we did concieve 1st cycle I’d still be 33 when the baby was born and I would prefer if they weren’t born too near Christmas to have to deal with joint presents etc their whole lives – though obviously we’re not going to stop TTC because of that!).
Sigh, any words of advice? It might end up being academic anyway as dh has a thing against bd-ing when we’re staying at other people’s houses, and we’re likely to be at his parents during my fertile window 🙁
Post # 3
You can always blame a bad back and it would be bad to go
Post # 4
Can you pretend you are not feeling well at the last minute and send your DH in your place with your Dad? (Obviously I don’t have any problems with a little white lie at the right time in the right circumstances.)
Post # 5
I really don’t think the wind tunnel is going to hurt you during your two week wait. You’ll be in the two week wait, right? I don’t think there’s anything you can do, short of dying, that’ll hurt your baby that early. I say, go ahead and do it! The place is just advising against it so you don’t sue them.
Post # 6
I would just do it honestly. You can’t hurt the baby as it won’t really even start to develop yet. If you were like 3+ months along then yeah I wouldn’t go, but that early and not even knowing if it will happen or not I would just do it.
Post # 7
You could always ask your doctor, the indoor sky diving place is probably being over cautious to cover their ass so no one will sue them. I don’t think it would actually do any harm if you were very early pregnant.
Post # 8
I’m with idoalterations. It’s early enough that I highly doubt it would impact anything. That aside, it’s very unlikely you’ll get pregnant your first cycle – not unheard of, but I’m several years younger and almost 8 months in with trying, and that’s not that unusual either.
If nothing else, go ASAP after Christmas.
Post # 9
Oh wow I think they are being WAY overprotective, really they just don’t want to be liable if you were to MC or something, although I really don’t think that indoor sky diving would even cause that. I’d just go. I can’t imagine why they would say you shouldn’t do it if you’re TTC. That’s just ridiculous! You’re still a normal human being! Even if you WERE barely pregnant, your GS is so stinkin tiny and it’s down in your pelvis, and surrounded by tons and tons of cushion
Post # 10
@graygodess20: @julies1949: @idoalterations: @MrsN14: Thanks ladies, think I need to have a chat with my dh and explain when my fertile window is likely to fall and check if even bd-ing around the right time is even feasible next cycle (fx). I’m seeing my dad on Saturday so we can compare diaries then and if there’s anyway I can get him to go before Christmas I will. I don’t think the voucher is transferable to my dh unfortunately, plus he’s nowhere near a daredevil like me, and I don’t think my parents would buy a bad back.
Hmm, you’re probably right about it being safe in the 2ww, and that was my first instinct. 99% thinks it’d probably be fine, I guess there’s just the 1% that knows how common miscarriages are and if I did happen have one I guess I’d wonder a bit if the skydiving contributed even if I knew in my head it probably didn’t (can you tell I overthink things?). I’ll keep thinking on it ….
Post # 11
@idoalterations: Reply # 4 —> 100% THIS
I am guessing it is just a precautionary measure on their part.
I mean seriously… we are talking minute cells here at this point in time.
Still pretty resilent at this point in time IME.
Especially so in light of all the things that Women do who AREN’T AWARE they are Pregnant
(Lol, you wouldn’t want to hear my list for sure)
Post # 12
@pixiecat: @CookieCreamCakes: @MsJ2theZ: Thanks ladies, you’re all very reassuring 🙂 We don’t have as much of a sueing culture over here in the UK, but I agree that people do get a bit rediculous with health and safety and it’s getting worse. I’ve been really looking forward to the skydiving, so if I’m honest with myself I think I’ll definitely end up going (as early as possible), and am just trying to validate my decision.
Post # 13
Thanks @This Time Round: I definitely don’t want my life to stop just because we’re TTC 🙂
Post # 14
@RainbowHope: Just to give you a similar example, I was reading up on wether I was supposed to get massages or not (it’s totally fine), and read that a lot of places won’t give you massages if you are less than 12 weeks a long simply because they don’t want to be liable if you have a MC. Except, massages don’t cause miscarriages. Gestational issues do! So… it’s just an overprotective, cover their ass kind of thing imo. I wouldn’t even tell them, even if you are pg. And based on what you’ve said it sounds like you probably wouldn’t even know by then if you ARE pg. Just have fun while you can! LIVE IT UP! lol
Post # 15
I would go! Maybe just check with your Dr. and see what they think. I believe most miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormalities or hormonal/uterine/cervical abnormalities…nothing you do from the outside will impact it. Other MC might (rarely) be caused by infections or viruses but still not related to any activity.
They’re just protecting themselves, I would check with your Dr.
Post # 16
I would also definitely do the indoor skydiving in my TWW. I also think they are just being extra cautious. I absolutely understand what you mean about if you were to have a miscarriage, you might feel bad about the skydiving. However, the vast majority of miscarriages are not caused by anything the woman does. Massive amounts of caffeine, drugs or alcohol can cause miscarriages, that is about it. Just go and have fun and don’t put your life on hold for TTC! If you do end up pregnant the first cycle, I think it’d be a great story for your future child- he/she was a daredevil in the womb!