Post # 1
I’m terrified of crickets.
I know this sounds ridiculous, but they’re big and black and crunchy, and I just CAN’T. I can’t put on a shoe and squish it. I can’t gently shoo it outside.
Spiders I can squish. I can sic the dog on a roly poly. But right now there is a cricket in my kitchen. The last time I saw it, it was hiding in the broom. So now I’m afraid to go to that corner of my kitchen where I last saw it (about an hour ago), which means no fridge/oven/closing the back door.
To give you an idea: I had let the dog out in the yard through the back door. I saw the cricket. I COULD NOT make myself go over there and let him in, so I went outside through the dining room and begged him to come in through the porch.
Does anyone have any tips on how to just get over it?
Post # 3
Bugs are gross…I tend to put a container over them and wait until my Fiance gets home to take care of it…sorry that probably was not super helpful.
Post # 4
Fiance and I definitely agree that this isn’t stupid. They’re gross. I feel the same way about earthworms. I can’t count the number of times I’ve screamed or nearlt threw up upon seeing one.
Post # 5
@vorpalette: Darling Husband has been making me feel like CRAP for it. He says stuff like “It’s not going to hurt you, I don’t know how to deal with you when you’re not being rational.” Or, even better “How can you take care of our baby when you can’t even squish a cricket?” It just bothers me, it’s not like it was ON HER and I just ran away from her.
I told him phobias aren’t always rational. I got the dog in the house. But go stand next to where I saw it and get milk out of the fridge? NO.
I’m about to have to go in the kitchen to make the baby her bedtime bottle, and I’m putting it off because who knows where the monster is now.
Post # 6
Definitely not a stupid phobia, all bugs give me the heebie jeebies. I’d sick the dog on the cricket and run away to avoid the crunch LOL
I’m lucky, whatever bug I start screaming over, my cats play with it until it’s half dead then they eat it lol
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
I am the same way!!! I’m shuddering just thinking about it. My boyfriend gets annoyed with I scream and run away from bees in the summer! I’m not much help, but you aren’t alone!!
Post # 8
Update: (sort of) When Darling Husband came home from work last night, he brought me a pack of Reese’s Peanut Butter cups for “surviving the cricket invasion.” (Which hey, if there’s going to mockery, at least it comes with candy.) Then he tried to get it last night, but the little bugger was too fast.
So this morning, he took advantage of an area storm, and called in late to work (so he could have a safer drive) and tore apart the kitchen to search for it. He moved the fridge, stove and checked under all the cabinets, and nothing.
He says early this morning, he thought it was caught in our back door, and that he thinks it went back outside.
Hope that’s true!
Post # 9
Haha that’s cute that he brought you some RPB cups, those are the best! I’m that way about spiders, I slip shit when I see one. Rational or not, it’s the truth and my husband has learned to deal with it. He actually hates spiders too but knows that it won’t get killed unless he does it. Just the other night there was a HUGE cricket spider thingy in our basement and he was at work. I threw the broom at it and smooshed it. But then I couldn’t bring myself to go downstairs to get the broom or pick up the dead spider beceause others might be down there. Yuck!
Post # 10
I’m not a fan of bugs… but I used to be worse… What I do now when I see a bug??? I take a deep breath… look at the bug and make sure it’s not on me or inching towards me (this calms me down majorly) and grab a broom, shoe, paper, any object good for smushing and beat the crap out of it… it’s nice and stress relieving and I feel better once it’s dead. Plus once I did it the first time (which took me about an hour to get the courage up) it was easier to do it again and again. I do admit I do still have some issues with the bugs that can fly/jump on me like crickets or those nasty flying cockroaches… I invested in a giant can of the raid that sprays super far and kills on contact. If I feel bad about killing it (I almost never do…) I push it out the door somehow and pretend it never existed.
Post # 11
I am so with you!! No advice because I have in fact woken up my husband from a dead sleep to come catch the cricket. I DON’T do bugs. None.That is what husbands are good for!
Post # 12
I studied psychology in college. The unfortunate news for you in dealing with your phobia is to face it head on. Expose yourself often to crickets (<-silly idea) or handle them more and more when they come in the house. The big thing about phobias is that you build up the fear in your mind when you see them and freak out. You “train” yourself to have that reaction. If you “untrain” the reaction you’ll still find them gross but the fear will ease.
I have the same issue with spiders. I hate them. The cure for my irrational fear however was a black widow infestation (outside the house by the front door, not inside). At first I was paralyzed with fear by them but I eventually got into a routine of taking bug spray and killing 10-20 a night for a couple months (many babies). Now I no longer have irrational fear of spiders, I just have an irrational hate.
Post # 13
Our cats will eat most bugs, which is great because we’ve had a couple of GIANT spiders that neither of us will touch.
At least you’re not as bad as a former coworker of ours! She was terrified of birds. One day, I brought in my new purse that had a very stylized bird print inside. She saw it and squealed (in a bad way) and jumped back and told me to zip my purse up ASAP.
Post # 14
So, from a psychological perspective, the idea is that if you face your fear just one time, it will get easier the next time.
Post # 15
@Quietserenity: Don’t squish crickets, they’re nice, lol. However, if you have any bug spray that’s what I would do. I’m terrified of spiders, yuck. I don’t like any bugs, really, and a cricket indoors can be annoying as hell. And they’re scary because they JUMP. Yuck!
Post # 16
@Sunfire: You can come hang out with my husband then, who tells me over and over “Crickets are nice! You know, they’re LUCKY in China.”
All while I hiss at him “Well we’re not IN CHINA, are we?”
So basically, as long as I keep relying on someone to kill them for me, I’m going to be terrified of them.