(Closed) How to get past the disappointment?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
15 posts
Newbee

Kb7,

I’m sorry to hear this. In 6 years, I’m sure many of your friends have married and started families while you wait. I’m pretty much in the same boat. My SO and I have been together 4.5 years. He has oddly enough not brought up marriage, only fleeting statements such as that we’ll be together forever. Somehow, I feel like this is not the same thing as the topic of marriage and family. Earlier on when he said such things, I considered it sweet, though now I find it more along the lines of unsatifying. But what do I do? I’ve honestly considered having one too many beers as you’ve had, and exposing my feelings to him. 

 

Post # 4
Member
43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I feel the same way @kb7.
I have been with my man for 3.5 years. I have always wanted to get married young, but the time keeps ticking and still no ring. I always see people on my facebook getting engaged and almost all of my friends from highschool are married. He said he does want to get married, but he’s been saying that for years. I have been planning my wedding in my head since I was little and I just can’t wait. He isn’t in a hurry but I am! And like you said, I want to have kids soon so my grandparents can see them. I get sad when I see all of my friends getting engaged and married because I want it to be my turn. We have arguements whenever I bring it up because he wants it to be a surprise and he doesn’t want me to pressure him. You aren’t the only one feeling that way!

Post # 5
Member
1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I feel for you. Our 6 year is in June, and I’m really hoping for a proposal then.

It would really bother me if I couldn’t even talk to SO about getting engaged/married/kids though. I can pretty openly talk about marriage to SO and he’s pretty receptive.

If he’s 10 years older than you and you’ve been together 6 years, do you think things will change? I understand about his parents, my parents are divorced as well.

How would you feel if he never wanted to get married?

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