How to get SO to be more serious about planning our future?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d sit him down and have a timeline chat!

Like “I would like X months to plan a wedding at minimum, and I’d like X amount of time married before trying for kids. If it’s going to take us X amount of time to save for a wedding, that means the absolute soonest we could possibly have kids would be X date.”

Just make it realistic for him!

Post # 6
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1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Since you both decided on three years, I think you two should sit down and make a 3-year plan.  Make a timeline for moving in, saving certain amounts of money, etc.  Sometimes guys need things really written out for them.

Post # 7
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1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TGold:  +1.

OP, I would try to make it a little more serious. If he tries to make a joke, gently but surely make the point that this is serious. You’ve got a three year timeline and while timelines don’t always work to plan (if they did I’d be in my dream job right now…and I’d know what my dream job is haha), it’s a good place to start. Better than no timeline. Put it in writing and keep it somewhere you both can find.

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