How to get your SO to talk about serious things

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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8418 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@tmsing:  Not sure what to suggest if he’s not willing to go to counseling/therapy and he’s not willing to talk to you about it.  It sounds like you’re being supportive, so I think the rest is really up to him.  Best of luck to both of you.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Keep encouraging him to go to therapy. Heck, ask him to go with YOU for YOUR issues, and then see if your therapist can work things to get him to open up a bit. Honestly, if I were your H and I knew you were going through something emotionally difficult (the antidepressant thing), the very last thing I would want to do is dump out my own problems on you. he may be afraid that unloading will make things harder on you, so he holds back, it builds up, and he slides deeper into his own funk. he needs an unbiased outlet. hopefully if you keep nudging him, he will get back into therapy for his own well-being.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@tmsing:  Maybe go to therapy sessions together?  Or maybe go to therapy yourself so that you might be able to handle this a little better.  It sounds like you’re in a tough situation, but I think it’s a really good sign that he will open up to you; even if it takes a bit of prodding.  I would ask him what would make him more comfortable going to a therapist (i.e. you going, meeting them first, etc).  Hopefully you guys will be able to find someone amazing that can help him through this.

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