- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
For a while now, I have wanted to have the toasts right after or before we cut the cake, for a couple reasons.
First, I don’t want to do many of the formalities at the beginning of the reception. I have always disliked weddings where the formal activities seem rushed or “gotten over with”.
Secondly, we are not having the type of reception where you can spread the toasts out over the courses. We are having a brunch buffet and I don’t want to interrupt the mingling and conversation. I feel like having multiple scheduled toasts would contradict the relaxed, informal feel we are going for.
But I was thinking about it today and I’m not sure how doing the cake cutting and toasting all together would work logistically. We are having our reception under a tent, and the cake table will likely be off to one side rather than at the center of the tent – the head table will be at the center. So I’m imagining that we would have an announcement that the couple is going to cut the cake, and all the guests would gather around, and we would cut it. After we cut it, our best man would get on the mike that would be set up near the table and toast us. The maid of honor would go next, and then FI would toast all our guests and that would be that. By then, the cake could have been cut and plated for guests to take to their tables and eat.
But is that weird to make people stand in a cluster around the cake table like that for several minutes? Will people get distracted by the cake getting plated and want to go get a piece instead? And how would everyone get their glass of sparkling cider? I really want every guest to have a glass, but it would be kind of tricky for the caterers to bring out all that cider that quickly between the cake cutting and first toast – AND plate the cake.
An alternative I thought of was to just have it at our cocktail hour. We are actually being introduced at the cocktail hour location (the backyard) and then walking the short distance with our guests in masse to the tent for the reception. So we could be introduced, and our guests would be gathered around for that. The sparkling cider could be brought out then and we could have our toasts with a mike stand set up near where we were introduced. We would just stand by the door we came out of. In FI’s toast to our guests, he could invite them to the reception tent. Now that I’m typing this out, it sounds like it could work well, but I’m still don’t love the toasts at the very beginning for some reason.
What do you think?