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Can you afford to buy her something? Treat her to a new dress because she lost so much weight and looks fabulous?
Maybe if you wrap up the whole thing in a "I am doing this for you" sort of way, everyone wins.
I would try to take her shopping and buy her something as a gift! I'm sure she's just being stubborn and it's not that she doesn't have the money for a new dress. If you have the money, treat her.
LMAO - my mother is wearing the same thing to my encore rehearsal dinner that she did to my first rehearsal dinner. What is it with mothers and clothing for weddings? :-) I think you should offer to get her something new - and if she declines, then just hope that she won't be able to get it altered and will have to get something new anyway. It's kind of nutty though - I mean, does she really want to look the same in all the pictures?
I guess I would rather buy her a dress than have her show up in the old dress, but I feel like FI and I are paying for everything and having a small, but expensive wedding and all I'm asking them to do is show up dressed properly and they are both giving me crap. Dad has also complained (only half joking) about having to buy a suit! It is not an issue of having the money, just the actual spending. They just took a trip to Aruba and are constantly buying computers, cameras, and every other gadget on earth.
@Peyton- I'm not the only one? I can't believe it! At least yours is for the RD. I could live with that!
hopefully the costs of doing any alterations will totally out weigh the cost of buying a brand new one. or do you have an aunt or family members that you could clue in and ask to also suggest to her that a new dress is the way to go?
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So I'm an encore and it's my FI's first marriage. I don't expect my Mom to be super excited and all involved in the planning or anything since it's my 2nd wedding, BUT...
We had a conversation a while back tht really hurt my feelings. She asked me if it would be okay if she wore the same dress to this wedding as she did to my first (if she had it "altered or something"). I remained calm and told her "I would rather you didn't, but if you have your heart set on it, then I'd understand". I knew it wasn't for sentimental reasons she wanted to wear the dress and she snapped back "Well, it's just a lot of money, azbride!" I can't believe that she would say this considering my 1st wedding was 10 years ago. The dress does not even fit her anymore because she has lost so much weight. You would think she would be excited to go shopping since the weight loss!
I''ve let it go, but the other day she brought it up again. She started talking about how she might take the dress to a seamstress and see what can be done. Aaaarrrgggh! Seriously? I again remained calm and just tried to tell her that I didn't think the material the dress is made out of would allow for much alteration (it's that stretchy, no wrinkle stuff with beading). How far do I let this go? I feel like if I say anything to her about how I don't want her to wear the dress, she'll snap back at me again and recently she has really warmed up about the weding in general so I don't want to squash that.
Do I just let it go and figure she'll end up not being able to alter the dress or want to buy something new?