How to handle my mother stealing from us?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Not sure how she gets into your apartment, can’t you have your locks changed? That will solve the whole situation.

Post # 4
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657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Maybe you will have to hide all money when she comes over? it’s sad but seems like the only way she won’t steal from you.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Oh wow thats a really shitty situation for you to be in. If it were me and i was absolutely certain my mum had took the money id be sending her a message right back saying that i was glad she decided to stay away from my apartment as it would save me the trouble of telling her the same

If its been this way your entire life,i think you can take the guilt trip stuff with a pinch of salt (easier said than done i know) and put a bit of space between you until you figure out what next. 

Im so sorry you are in this very shitty position

 

 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you are going to allow your mother into your home, it is clear that you need a safe- a secure place to lock up your money and important cards when she is in your home.

You can buy a small safe at Staples etc. We have one for all our important papers because it is fireproof.

Your Mom is a thief and like booze for an alcoholic, money is just too much for her to resist.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think there’s anything you can do but lock up your valuables and don’t leave her alone in  your home. It’s unfortunate but that’s the way it is, and I don’t see her changing any time soon.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

i would never allow her into your home again and you need to sit down and explain why. she seems to have a problem.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I wouldn’t let her in the house. I cant stand a thief.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Anonymous_Bee20:  Yeh that manipulation tactic is really shitty.Worse than taking money in my view. At the end of the day,you asked her if she had happened to see a 20 dollar bill…..you didnt accuse her (although you may well of in your head!) and she has run with it. So realistically she can rant all she likes with messages and facebook pictures,it means diddly squat

Apart from the theiving instances are you two close?

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Geez, what a sorry excuse for a mother. I can’t fathom my mom stealing from me. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that, OP. If it were me, I would cut all ties at least for the next several months. You don’t need someone that slimy in your life, mother or not. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

stronger-now1:  oh my god thats so awful of her. Sounds like she took the $20 from the way she reacted. Straight on the offensive like a guilty person. i guess any cash in your home you keep under lock and key and she never gets hold of the keys? 

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