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    kharamia77    December 3, 2011   NY, NY

    We had 8 ppl not show our of 90. Three ppl didn't bring their plus ones, 2 couples just didn't show, and 1 got stuck across the country with work (understandable). The 3 ppl that dind't bring their plus ones didn't have any excuses, no apologies or mention of them. One I asked..where's your husband and it was a lame-o excuse. The other two I didn't mention but I wish I had. I'd like to mail everyone back their RSVP with no note:) How did everyone else handle the no shows?

     
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    PinkMagnolia    November 2011  

    I just got over it. There wasn't really anything to do....

    Honestly I wasn't in it for the presents from other guests, but I feel like if you RSVPed that you'll be there and don't show, you should send me a check to cover your plate of wasted food. I had $750 in wasted food.

     
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    melisslp    July 3, 2010   St. Louis, MO

    It sux...but, there's really nothing you can do. Sorry!

     
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    milesbella    September 17, 2011   Iowa

    We had a family of 4 that didn't show (Hubby's coworker, wife and two children...and the children weren't even originally invited).  We had 9 other no-shows (out of 190 guests) and to this day not ONE of them has offered up an apology or an excuse.

    It does suck, but there isn't much you can do about it.

     
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    kharamia77    December 3, 2011   NY, NY

    Quite a few ppl didn't give us presents and it was totally okay with us. They were there to celebrate and have fun with us.The ppl who didn't show? I will always resent them for the amt of money they cost and their complete disrespect. Gross. I would just like to make sure they know. But I am really a nice person deep down so I will have to just swallow it. Pretty sure that one of them will be getting married and I am thinking right now we'll rsvp yes, confirm up to a week before, and not show. Hahahaha:)

     
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    Ryansgirl    October 22, 2011   Canada

    Well we had a few no shows, but I was so happy that day, it didn't bother me.  Plus we weren't planning on feeding the band, so them eating made up for the people who didn't show.

    Oh want to hear my best no-show excuse?  "We ordered meat, and it was finally ready this weekend so my husband had to go pick it up."  Ummm okay.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Not much you can do. I pouted for a little bit and then made myself get over it. :)

     
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    sweetcarrie    December 2011  

    money aside, i think the biggest shame with no shows is that you could have invited someone else if you had the space.

     

    i know my wedding is small, and if people dont show, it will be sad because there are plenty of people we just couldnt invite because of space restrictions.

     
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    You really can't do anything about these rude people.

     
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    brideatbeach    June 4, 2011  

    We were frustrated with the handful of no-shows that we had, as well, especially because we did cut some others in order to make room for them. But getting catty about it and bringing it up to them wasn't going to accomplish anything, so we just let it go and moved on...

     
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    pandaboo    March 10, 2012  

    I'm not married yet but I feel like just get over it and remember why you got married in the first place, for your hubby :)

    my friend got married on christmas day... that's a whole other story, but to each his own..

    anyways she said how so many people didn't show and it was a seated dinner so I'm sure a lot of money and food went to waste... and she said the people that didn't go either said it was because it was christmas or just didn't give any excuses..

    i already know there'll be people who don't show.. or well as long as the majority is there i'll be happy :)

     
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    pandaboo    March 10, 2012  

    @Ryansgirl: what?? omg that is the lamest excuse!!!!!!!!!!!!

     
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    yrret107    November 28, 2009   Seattle, WA; Married in West Chester, PA

    Sorry. No shows, suck!

    Yeah, I was pissed for a good month or maybe a little more.  I had about 12 no shows out of 120 guests.  Like others have said, its just something you have to eventually get over. I tried to think of the positives of my wedding as much as I could.

     
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    Juliepants    June 2, 2012   Ontario

    @Ryansgirl: What an awkward excuse.

    I figure that it's up to the no shows to explain themselves; that's the polite thing to do, anyway.

     
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    Ryansgirl    October 22, 2011   Canada

    @pandaboo: I was pretty annoyed at that excuse, couldn't you pick it up before/after?  It was an 11am-4pm wedding, not like it was all freaking day! lol

     
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    kharamia77    December 3, 2011   NY, NY

    I am truthfully more upset that they were almost all on my husband's side and he noticed at the wedding and was upset. Really the money in the grand scheme of things was nothing compared to the total spent but the way they made my husband feel was really awful.

     

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