(Closed) How to handle not going to BM/Sis’ Bridal shower, Advice pls

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would pick up the phone and call her.  She needs to know the situation and why you can’t go.  Honestly, if my sister couldn’t make it to my shower or bachelorette because of financial issues, and it wasn’t something crazy like going to Vegas or something, I would pay for her.

ETA: Maybe say, I would really love to come but finances are really tight right now and I just can’t afford it.  Maybe I could do something else for you to celebrate, like take you out for lunch?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

… I have to ask, are your finances the issue that you can’t go, because you cannot buy her a present?

If I were you, I would be 100% honest with my sister.

Post # 6
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5755 posts
Bee Keeper

Honestly? I think you and your FI should switch and have him miss a friend’s batchelor party, so you can attend your SISTER’s shower. Family should trump this one.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Definitely have to agree about you and FI switching if its possible.

But just talk to her. She’s your sister! On Saturday, I had to miss my mom’s 40th birthday party because SO couldn’t get off a few hours early and we live two hours away and really just didn’t have the money.

We’re taking her out to dinner in two weeks when we’ll be in town and to giving her a present then. She was very understanding and excited to go out with us. I’m sure your sister will understand:)

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(Closed) How to handle not going to BM/Sis’ Bridal shower, Advice pls

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette