How to handle over-eager MIL/grandmother-to-be

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@GirlNextDoor:  Ugh, girl, I am right there with you, and it is SUCH a fine line to walk. My MIL is the same way, but I would beg to say worse. She has this annoying habit of patting my belly when we see her, and already being self concious, crampy, and just guarded I did have to tell her not to touch my stomach without asking. It isn’t easy, but it had to be done.

She has already been buying stuff before we find out the gender, asking about nursery, names, all of that. DH had to intervene and just tell her we will let her know plans as we see fit. She will not be getting every bit of information she wants. He also told her that it stresses me out and overwhelms me more to be reminded of what I need to preapre for, and she needs to just be patient. We couldn’t tell her to hold off on the clothing because it’s her money.

We haven’t told her yet, but she will have a very specific set of rules for after the baby is born when it comes to visits because she EXPECTS to stay with us. Initally I wanted my mom to for the first week, but now I am kicking everyone out for a few days until DH and I can bond and learn together. You just need to set ground rules and stick with them. Make sure your DH backs you up and supports you. If he doesn’t or doesn’t see the big deal, you will need to talk to him first and get on the same page.

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