Post # 1
My mother-in-law is highly enthusiastic about becoming a grandmother, which is wonderful. She started talking about a shower the day we told her we’re expecting and also asking how we planned to decorate the nursery. Although I’m not a fan of showers (managed to avoid a bridal shower), I finally gave in since she was so eager and I know she would enjoy it. While I greatly appreciate her enthusiasm and support, she is already saying I need to register for gifts – and I’m only 15 weeks! I’m trying to enjoy my pregnany week by week and it’s hard for me to think about baby gear when I’m still overcoming nausea. I’m afraid her continual reminders of all the preparations will overwhelm me throughout my pregnancy. Any advice on how to kindly get her off my back about nursery and shower plans?
Post # 3
@GirlNextDoor: Ugh, girl, I am right there with you, and it is SUCH a fine line to walk. My MIL is the same way, but I would beg to say worse. She has this annoying habit of patting my belly when we see her, and already being self concious, crampy, and just guarded I did have to tell her not to touch my stomach without asking. It isn’t easy, but it had to be done.
She has already been buying stuff before we find out the gender, asking about nursery, names, all of that. DH had to intervene and just tell her we will let her know plans as we see fit. She will not be getting every bit of information she wants. He also told her that it stresses me out and overwhelms me more to be reminded of what I need to preapre for, and she needs to just be patient. We couldn’t tell her to hold off on the clothing because it’s her money.
We haven’t told her yet, but she will have a very specific set of rules for after the baby is born when it comes to visits because she EXPECTS to stay with us. Initally I wanted my mom to for the first week, but now I am kicking everyone out for a few days until DH and I can bond and learn together. You just need to set ground rules and stick with them. Make sure your DH backs you up and supports you. If he doesn’t or doesn’t see the big deal, you will need to talk to him first and get on the same page.
Post # 4
@megz06: Thanks so much for your post, and sounds like your MIL takes enthusiasm to another level! Glad you suggested getting DH’s support and setting boundaries early…after all, this behavior will only increase once baby arrives! Many thanks again and all the best wishes to you…cheers to ENJOYING pregnancy on our own agendas 🙂
Post # 5
We are not even TTC and I am already dreading my in-laws. Ughhhhh!!!!!