Post # 1
I received a wedding invitation from someone I am passing acquaintances at best. I was surprised at the invitation, then realized FH isn’t on the envelope, no “and guest,” just me. I know she doesn’t know FH very well, but she doesn’t know me much better. I know she knows I am married because she addressed it to MyFirst MyMaiden MyLast (points for getting my name right). I really don’t want to go by myself, and don’t think there will be many people I know. My thought was to call her and ask, but I don’t have her phone number or email, and can’t seem to find anyone who does. This was also the first rsvp card I have ever gotten without a stamp. I am wondering if she just doesn’t know etiquette. I am all for RSVPing, but please don’t make it difficult! What would you do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I would just RSVP that I wasn’t going. But WOW, I can’t believe it doesn’t even have a stamp.
Post # 4
Honestly, if I was presented with a situation like yours, I’d probably just decline. It sounds like you really don’t know her.
But if you do really want to go, and end up asking her, let us know how it goes.
Post # 5
My husband recently also got an invitation to a wedding from a coworker (whom he barely knows). It was only addressed to my husband, the RSVP not only didn’t have a stamp but didn’t have an envelope!! BUT.. they were sure to include an enclosure card with all their registry information. I told my husband to decline and hand the card to the groom in person…
Post # 7
Also, if I don’t go, would you send a gift?
Post # 8
I wouldn’t go nor send a gift for someone i am only barely acquaintances with.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t go. If you want to give her a gift, then go for it, but I don’t think you have to.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t go or send a gift, especially if you are so distant that you don’t even have any contact info for her.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t go, especially if you’re just acquaintances, and there’s no reason to send a gift if you don’t want to.
But just so you know, etiquette does not dictate that she include stamped RSVP cards for people to reply. She’s not bound by etiquette to even supply RSVP cards themselves; these became a trend to encourage guests to reply, but guests are supposed to know how to reply properly to invitations without being prompted (according to Ms. Manners).
Post # 12
I wouldn’t go or send a gift. (:
Post # 13
I wouldn’t go unless I knew I was going to have a good time with other friends who are going. If I didn’t go, I wouldn’t send a gift – mostly because I wouldn’t/haven’t sent gifts to people I know only in passing. If it were a friend I’d hung out with on my own, I’d send a gift.
Post # 15
I would RSVP “No”, and I wouldn’t send a gift, but I’d send a “congratulations” card.
Post # 16
Do you want to go?
If so, I do think it’s a bit odd that she wouldn’t invite your husband and think it was an oversight. Was there an inner envelope address to just you? If you want to go – I’d send the RSVP card back and add a note asking if she intended to invite your husband or not and include your email and phone number so she could let you know. But, keep in mind, that if she comes back and says no, she can’t accommodate him, then you are flying solo to the wedding.
(Phew, that’s a lot of work!)
If you don’t want to go – then, you know what to do 🙂