Post # 1
Hi Bee’s –
I am truly frustrated right now, for things that I know I cannot control. Sometimes I think, why am I spending thousands of dollars on a wedding? Then I remember that this is something I have wanted my entire life, something that I would regret not doing. So, I picked up a second job to save for my dream wedding.
But I am getting SOOO frustrated when unexpected expenses come up.
Two weeks ago my FI had to fly home last minute because a relative wasn’t well, had to get a hotel, rental car, etc. About $800
Last week I had to pay $326 in auto repairs for my car.
Just now my FI calls and says his car broke down and the mechanic said it would be $800 to fix…and by the way something else is wrong but it can wait. I am really angry at him for not calling me first, because really we should have discussed if it was worth the repairs or time to start looking for a new car.
All I see is more than a thousand dollars from our wedding budget gone. Sure, we have emergency savings account, but we try to save that for it something crazy happened like we lost our jobs.
How do you bee’s handle unexpected expenses? Does it get your down? I really just want to go home and cry right now because my entire check from my second job is going to pay these expenses not my wedding. Another part of me is telling, why stress over things you cannot control?
Post # 3
Sorry to hear about the stress but definitely remind yourself some things are out of your control. I’m sure you’ll have your dream wedding despite these bumps in the road. I applaud you for taking a second job, that’s some serious determination.
Post # 4
Our wedding is Saturday and FI’s phone just decided to crap out. $200 later….
I’m just rolling with it at this point.
Post # 5
I hear you (although I never wanted to get married until a few years ago). Four months into wedding planning, several deposits made, I lost my job. The pay wasn’t great (nor what I was worth), but it was the most I’d ever made. I’d purchased a new (to me) car a month after we got engaged, too. Then, surprise, you’re not hired in, you’re laid off! I did find out several months later that the company actually went out of business, so there is that. I was out of work for six weeks and then my recruiter found me a new job that was just supposed to be a last-minute fill in…for $3 less an hour, which meant that I was making barely more than I made in retail. I got hired in there, but I have no benefits and got one whole dollar raise when I got hired in. I was supposed to get a raise a couple of weeks ago, and that didn’t happen. FI is a student and is trying to pick up a job and getting nothing.
Post # 6
Thats about all you can do at this point…I’ve had to take my car off the road for now..the wedding is in just under 3 weeks, and there is no way i’m putting out money for a new vehicle at the moment, It’s going to have to wait for a while…
Post # 7
I got in a car accident a week after we got engaged. Dropped $1200 of our wedding budget down the tubes right off the bat. It was depressing, but I got over it. I have a strict savings budget setup going forward and we have a separate “emergency” savings fund but you never know when these unexpected expenses will pop up! It sucks when they do!!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone, this is making me feel better knowing that I am not the only one!
Post # 9
It will all work out
6 months before our wedding out cat got very sick, turned out to be diabetes, spent about $3000 initially to get it under control and get all the tests done, then she got a few UTIs which needed more testing plus she had to be hospitalized for 3 days on fluids for a bad e-coli infection, all in all it was about $6000 out of our wedding budget. THAT was alot of money. In the end, it all worked out and it was a fantastic day. Things just have a way of working out.
i know you probably feel it won’t because I did too, but stay positive and just roll with the punches.
Post # 10
Try not to stress. Everything will somehow work out. And remember that money always comes and goes…
My car recently broke down and I had to spend extra money to fix it. I have savings like you but it’s never a good feeling to dip into it. But it is what it is and that’s all apart of life. I just try to be positive and think at least I didn’t get in an accident or something. As bad as things are, it could have been worse.
I also under-budgeted on some of the wedding stuff so I’m taking a hit on that as well. I’m the first out of my friends to get married so when I made my budget, I really didn’t know if my budget was realistic since I had no one to ask. But at this point, it is what it is. I’m cutting costs where I can, but it’s not the end of the world if I can’t. You’re going to have an amazing wedding and that is priceless and will be all worth it.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Stressing about it won’t change anything. It’s natural to stress, so you have to fight that instinct. Just do the best you can. Save everywhere you can. Go on a spending hiatus; don’t buy anything unless you really need it, and when you do, shop around for the best price. Having good, strong finances is something you’ll have to work for your entire life. Watch Suze Orman. She might help you feel better about your expenses. Just make sure you can afford the wedding. Don’t go into debt for it.