Post # 1
Our venue, like most, charges a split entree fee per person if we want to give our guests an option. So we’re going to go with the most universally liked entree possible – chicken. They will do vegetarian meals for those guests who require one, without charging a fee. That is to say, if 5 of our 200 guests are vegetarians, the venue will accommodate that, but if 50 of our guests decide they just want vegetarian for the hell of it, we’ll get charged a split entree fee.
Off the top of my head, I know 1 or 2 guests who are vegetarians, but I don’t know all of our 200 guests’ dietary needs – my extended family members’ eating habits aren’t really on my radar, you know? 🙂
So when it comes time to do up the invitations and RSVP’s, how do I handle this? I don’t want to give the impression that a vegetarian dish is being offered as a normal option for everyone, because we could end up incurring upwards of $600 extra for the split entree fee. However, I do want those who don’t eat meat to know that we can accommodate them, and they won’t end up having to subsist on side salads and rolls alone. Is this something I could avoid putting on the RSVP’s and spread by word of mouth so people know they can call me and request a vegetarian meal? Do you have any other suggestions for the best way to handle this?
Post # 3
you could add a line to the rsvp that says something like “please advise of any dietary restrictions” that might cover it.
Post # 4
Maybe you could add a line that says something like “a vegetarian option is available upon request”.
Post # 5
Thanks, guys. I did think about the “please advise of any dietary restrictions” idea, and it could work, though I’m sure I’d end up hearing about every allergy and self-imposed low-cal/low-fat/Atkins dietary restrictions. 🙂
Post # 6
I like the “dietary restrictions” line. Like you said people will probably offer up info on their allergies. I think I like how discreet it is.
Post # 7
We put vegetarian as an option (They had to circle M or V) and only a couple of people chose vegetarian. I think unless your group of relatives or friends are a certain religion, you will get very few vegetarians, so no worries.
Post # 8
Well… I’m not vegetarian but I usually would choose a vegetarian option if offered. Just out of preference. So if you’re afraid too many people would choose their real preference, I would put the ‘vegetarian option available upon request’ rather that ‘advise of dietary preference’ to avoid the whole low-sodium low-fat gluten-whatever crowd. However, if enough of your guests pick vegetarian that they want as a preference so that you have to pay the fee… don’t you want them to pick what they would like?
Post # 9
I’d just go with “vegetarian option available on request.” The people that need it will let you know. It leaves the door open for people with other food needs, allergies or something, to let you know also. (And how awesome that your venue will do vegetarian without charging extra just for a few.)
Post # 10
@bananejaune: Well…yeah, I didn’t want to come off as not wanting to be a good host due to not letting my guests “pick what they would like.” I’d just really rather avoid paying nearly a thousand dollars extra for a split plate fee. I’m sure if everyone had their preference I’d end up paying a few thousand extra because some people like red meat, some people like seafood, etc. Honestly, when I go to a wedding, I’m not expecting to be able to select my favorite meal from a menu. I eat what’s offered and I don’t think badly of anyone for it. I’m just concerned about those people who CAN’T eat meat, and I don’t want to leave them hanging. :-
But I do like something along the lines of “Vegetarian available on request” or maybe even “Please call Melanie if you require a vegetarian meal.”
Post # 11
We just put a note in our invitations to please advise us of any food allergies or dietary restrictions. If you list “chicken” and “vegetarian” as options for people to pick from, you’re definitely going to get people who just get the veg for the heck of it – I would b/c I hate chicken breasts lol.
Post # 12
We didn’t offer different options and just ordered vegetarian for the people that we knew needed them. There ended up being 5 extras ones but the caterers were able to make do. I would maybe mention on the invite to advise of dietary needs and leave it at that.
Post # 13
I’m doing a surf and turf duo entree. Steak and Fish. I had a gatefold invite, on the backside, there was room to write things about the wedding like the address, hotel rooms, and a detailed description of my provided meal. On my RSVP I wrote:
Indicate number of each:
___ ‘Surf and Turf sounds great!’
___ ‘I can’t eat surf and turf’
If someone can’t eat surf and turf for whatever reason, I plan to call them and ask what they can eat to get a veggie meal option made. I don’t expect many veggie’s. Not a norm for my group.
Post # 13
well, here is my question…how does a potential guest choose the ‘vegetarian option available’? Listed on the invite are the usual
and then below that…..
vegetarian option available upon request (without a line to checkmark it)
so how does one choose the veggie option if there is no line to mark that particular choice? Would you CIRCLE that sentence?? Please advise. Wedding is soon!
Post # 14
BoSoxInNy: I think that is an indication to contact the host to discuss your dietary needs. It sounds like a similar situation to above (they are offering it to those who need it, but not as a regular option). By contacting the host, they can make sure the meal will work for you.