How to have 2 year old flower girl in ceremony but not at reception?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Any chance you can pay for a babysitter for the flower girl during the reception time closer to your ceremony? Maybe they have friends in town they can use, and you can offer to pay

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are they averse to anyone caring for the child while they stay at the reception? Do they live locally or are they travelling? Do they have someone to care for the child? if so, could that person come to the wedding to pick up the child, rather than the parents leaving?

Certainly, you can make an exception for the  flower girl as she is a member of the wedding party. It all comes down to what the parents want to do.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

aconnor82:  Do either of their parents live in Boston? Could you offer to cover the costs if one of them is able to travel to the wedding with the family and therefore be able to care for the child?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

So you have a total of 3 hours of photography time? I don’t think a two year old could make it through that, anyway… 1.5 hours is MORE than enough time for pictures post ceremony. And considering the father is your FIs brother I can see why it’s more important that he stay for pictures than the mother. Still, I’d be dying for an escape route after 90 minutes of pics if I were him. 

Could you offer for the teenage girl to come to the wedding (on your dime) so she is available to take the girl to a quiet place at the reception place to sleep/color/watch movies after dinner or whenever she gets tired? That way the flower girl would be close by to her parents and no one has to leave. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It won’t let me edit my post, but your other option is to tell them she can attend the reception and just be ok with them leaving the reception when she gets tired. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

aconnor82: What are the guests doing during the 3 hours of photos? I would try to do park pictures before the ceremony, if possible. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

aconnor82:  She could stay for the reception but then the parents would have to leave earlier. This is a tricky situation…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

aconnor82:  just as an FYI; little people can stay up insanely late if they’re having fun 🙂 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

aconnor82:  we had an adult reception, and we had a flower girl and 2 ring boys. I gave the parents the option. I offered for them to stay at the reception because they were a part of the bridal party, but the parents said they wanted to enjoy themselves and not worry about the kids for the night. So the kids participated in the ceremony, stayed for about an hour of pictures ( which was just about as much as those por babies could take at that point lol) and then their parents dropped them off at babysitters and joined us back at the reception for cocktail hour and dinner and dancing. 

My sister actually hired a babysitter to stay in the bridal suite with the flower girl so she could sleep while her parents had fun at the party.

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