How to have a fun wedding as a shy couple

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

That describes us! We’re keeping the guest list small. VERY small. Four people lol. You don’t need to do it that small, but really think about who you’re inviting and why.

I have no qualms about not inviting people. It’s immediate family and my best friend only. We don’t want anyone else there.

We wanted to elope, but I think my sister would be hurt, so we decided to do something bit bigger.

Post # 4
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My advice is: Do what you need to do to make it a fun time for you. Enclude things/people you enjoy. Make sure you get time at the wedding (reception) just the two of you. Have elements that are completely (the two of) YOU 🙂


We are having a ceremony one evenings and then the reception the next afternoon. The ceremony is going to be the 25-30 closest people that mean the most to us, and then everyone else will be coming to the reception. Our first dance music is going to be non-conventional (broadway showtunes) and the reception will be more of a cocktail reception – which is more suited to our personalities and the fact that I can’t handle long events well (autism related issues).

Post # 6
592 posts
Busy bee

How about getting an MC as well as a DJ? Some good MC can really get people on the dance floor and have some fun.

Post # 7
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@caiteliz23:  Struggling with the same thing.  A small wedding isn’t a possibility since it would be a huge deal if we didn’t invite our combined hundred or so first cousins.  

What I have done is us tried to plan the weekend in a way that gives us relaxed time in small groups.  For example I want to start the day with a small brunch with our wedding party, pictures will be done before the ceremony so I’m not worried about other guests and can focus on just family/wedding party.  

We are also cutting a lot of the traditions so that there is less focus on just the two of us (i.e. no bouquet/garter toss, no mother/son or father/daughter dances, possibly no cake cutting).

And we are planning a recpetion that will have dancing AND other activities simultaniously so that my only options aren’t just dance and be self concious or go talk to people you haven’t seen in months and feel self concious, but also include things like playing a round of poker.

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