How to have a "timeline" talk…

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Dreaming42:  I think it’s great you want to have a timeline discussion, but I understand what you mean by difficult to begin. DH and I had the baby timeline discussion a few months ago and it actually stemmed from a natural discussion where we were talking about “when we have kids…”. Do you and your SO discuss marriage at all, even in passing and vaguely? If so, the next time it’s brought up, I would ask what he sees as the timeline for marriage. You in no way have to put him on the spot, but can just say something like “I absolutely want to marry you someday, but wanted to know what your thoughts were on what would be a good time.” Then go from there. If he gives you a long timeline that you’re not sold on, then you can throw in that you see it happening in 2-3 years, instead of 5 (or whatever comes from it). 

Post # 3
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Newbee

Does he ever talk with you about marriage or engagement??  Or even about a future family or home… That would be the easiest time for you to mention it, if so.  I approached the subject when my boyfriend got on the topic just talking in general regarding our future.  I just said something along the lines of, “I promise I am not pressuring you in any way, and I want you to move to the next step when you feel comfortable to do so…  but out of my own curiosity, I just was wondering what your timeline was for our future?”  I think it took him aback at first for me to ask, and he took a little while to give me an answer… About fifteen minutes after I asked, he ended up telling me he had recently picked out the ring, is in the steps to purchasing it, and is planning to propose in the next few months.  Good luck talking with him… I hope it goes well!! 🙂

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