- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I’ve posted about this before but I don’t seem to have solved the problem effectively enough. I’m so angry right now.
The only place I can logistically get ready for the wedding is at the venue and i’ve had to hire a room at a cost of £50 to do this. It’s not massively well kitted out so I’m packing a bag full of stuff we might need that morning and bought a full length mirror. The room isn’t massive and there will be me, mum, 2 sisters, BM, hair lady, make up lady and later on, the photog.
FMIL found out about this room and now, for some reason i can’t fathom, wants to get ready in it with me. She also wants her daughter and 2 grandchildren (aged 3 and 5) to get ready in it too. she hasn’t asked me, she just keeps telling me this is what they will do. I’ve tried:
– telling her the room is too small
– telling her there will already be 7/8 people in the room
– telling her she can leave clothes elsewhere at the venue where she can get ready.
She keeps saying:
– she wants to use my full length mirror as otherwise noone will get to see themselves in their ‘finery’.
– she doesn’t want to get dressed till they arrive at the venue or their clothes will all get creased and it will ruin the look. The only convenient option is to store their stuff in my room and get ready there. Including, changing nappies and leaving all their stuff there.
Every time I think the situation is resolved, another conversation with her seems to show that she still thinks she can talk me into this. I don’t want to be rude. She is otherwise lovely and has helped me with lots of things for the day. However she is bossy and has also said she wants to turn up to the venue 2 hours in advance of the ceremony (why??!). Apparently they will also be using the room to change my flower girl (the 5 year old) out of the £100 outfit they forced me into buying her (she had to be a flower girl), straight after the ceremony.
I don’t want FI to deal with this on his own as it will look like I’ve been bitching (which I have) but she doesn’t seem to be listening to me. What do I do to get the message firmly across without insulting her entirely? Ugh, I just don’t want them all there and, as it’s a very small wedding, i’d like not to have seen half the guests before I walk down the aisle.
She is being unreasonable right?