- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My friend has been with her BF for about 3 yrs now and she lives with him. She also has a 15 yr old son and a single mother to him. This guy started off neddy and showing signs of jealousy in the beginning and everytime she tried to break up with him, he would start crying and saying he’s sudicial and no one love him. He would guilt her into staying. I know that’s her mistake for staying, but she’s just the nicest, hardest working, caring, cool person I know. And she hates hurting people and always felt guilty leaving him. Even when she did leave him, he would stalk her and harras her friends and she felt obligated to go back with him to end the humilation he was causing her. I can’t tell you why she stood after all that, but she is just too kind hearted. Crazy, I know.
Now fast forward, things are out of control and I don’t see my kind hearted, happy, fun-loving friend anymore. She’s always so miserable, crying, tired and hates life. Her BF is just sick in the head. He goes back and forth with I love you and you’re a whore. She has no where to go and can’t afford to move out at this moment to pay a deposit and first months rent all at once, with bad credit. And she feels bad moving her son from school to school. He doesn’t want to leave and she hides their drama from him. Her BF is harrasing her at work, calling her all the names in the book. Then turns around and says, let’s work it out. He’s stalking her and somehow listening to all her phone conversations, word for word, even when she’s not home. Knows her emails and is pretty much hacking into her personal accounts. He kicked her out and she is now staying at our boss’s house with her son, which is not ideal, but he keeps harrassing her and then tell her to come home.
The reason why I say if I should get involved or not, which I know its none of my business, but she calls me crying and says she can’t live like this anymore. She’s miserable and doesn’t want to live sometimes. I don’t know what to do besides listen and try to give her advice. It hurts me seeing her like this and hearing her so desparate to get out. I know there’ s not much for me to do, but I just feel like calling him out on all his BS. He’s nothing but a little B****! Because he’s always threatening to call the cops on her if she does anything and calls her names just to make himself feel better. He’s even calling her friends to say she has STDs and she’s a bad mother and just making up lies. He’s just insane.
I was sexually, verbally and pyshically abused by my ex for 8 yrs. So I know exactly how she’s feeling. She’s losing herself the way I did and didn’t care about life anymore. She has no more fight in her she says and I feel so helpless towards her. My FI is a marine and was raised to never treat a woman that way. I know he’ll put a stop to it if I told him to. Nothing pyshical, but I know this guys just needs a good ass kicking by a man.
What would you do?