How to help Odd One Out Bridesmaid

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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42510 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

MrsHistory-Bee:  If she won’t respond or participate in decision making, go ahead and make the decisions with the other BM’s. Let her know what they decided. If she is having financial problems, she may be uncomfortable sharing that information- especially on a conference call in front of the other BM’s.

Let her know that if she has any questions or concerns, that you are open to finding something that will work for her.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Sounds like she has a little bit of envy and her way of dealing with it is just to not deal with it at all.  Since you expect her to talk to you about what her deal is why can’t you just come staright out and tell her what your deal is?  Tell her that it seems like she isnt interested in being in the bridal party and ask her if she would want to back out with no hard feelings.  If she tells you no then you need to tell her to be more involved because its bothering you.  If you feel you are having a hard time telling her how you feel than maybe thats the same for her and your relationship isnt as tight. If thats the case i’d let her go from the party.  Its the only time you get to plan a wedding and it should be all about you and you should be having FUN planning with your bridesmaids!! Not having to babysit this chick! 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I agree 100% with 1234sophia!  You should give her the option of backing out and if she doesn’t want to then tell her to step up; if she doesn’t then she’s out.  You don’t need this added stress.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

MrsHistory-Bee:  then id just leave her the text that she’s out. see how fast she responds then.   how can you even count on her to be there when it really matters then. I feel bad for your situation 🙁 

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