Post # 1
Hi i was trying to think of a nice (but not morbid) way to honour my dad at our wedding? I really dont know where to start!!
He did about 10 years aog of cancer and i really want to find some small token way of having him remembered at the wedding (without it becoming too upsetting or making everyone feel down).
i dont know where to start though i thought maybe some way to encorperate it into the favours or anything…anyone any ideas?
Post # 3
A charitable donation in lieu of favors for your guests in his honor? This is what I hope to do in honor of my boyfriend’s late father.
“Thank you for sharing this special day with us. Instead of favors we have chosen to make a donation to ___________ in loving memory of _____________. He/She is with us today in spirit.”
Post # 4
i love that, the wording is just perfect! i honestly think you might have hit the nail on the head!
I was planning on doing cookies with each name iced on them, and wrap them in plactic bags with ribbon anyway so they will still have a little something something! xx
Post # 5
I’m glad you like! I struggled with the same question for a while — not wanting to give favors that didn’t mean anything and wanting to pay a tribute to the person whose presence would be greatly missed on the day that our families come together. When I saw that simple card, it just seemed so right.
I also like that it gives the bride and groom and opportunity to say a few words about it if they choose, but definitely keeps the atmosphere joyful.
Post # 6
For family members that have passed, we’re having a moment of silence at the beginning of the ceremony and a rememberacne table nesr the reception with all of their photos and a sign all with it saying something woke them being there in spirit, or watching from above.. I haven’t figured the wording out yet!
Post # 7
@shaka: well that looks just perceft to me, i am actually thinking i might have them as a bit of a tag (attache then to the ribbon of the cookies)…
Its really difficult because i loved him obviously wish he was going to be there, but i dont really want the day to be brought down by his absence, equally i think if it came up in a speach or anything i would cry like a baby so this seems like a nice way to remember him, be respectful but not too much reference to it on the day…
Post # 8
I’m putting a photo charm on my bouquet and a photo on a chair next to my mom during the ceremony. I also think I’ll put a necklace my dad used to wear into my bouquet.
Post # 9
My husband and I eloped so we didn’t have any guests. Only one of our parents is still alive so I ordered a bouquet and boutinerre charm with pictures of our parents from an etsy vendor so we could at least have them with us on our day. We also had them mentioned in the ceremony. The important thing is that you feel like your dad is with you.:)
Post # 10
I had 3 different things- On the back of our programs, I had listed everyone who had passed away but we wished were there to celebrate with us. I did “donation ilo of favors” place cards on each table and I wrapped a blue urn necklace with his ashes in it (It was my something blue!) around my bouquet so that it was like my dad was there walking me down the aisle.
Post # 11
@mollypuppy: My father passed away 6 years ago from cancer. I had a chair reserved for him in the front row next to my mother and I also did a memory table. With pictures and a poem… For those we have loved and lost along the way.
a flame to remember them burns here today.
We know you would be here today
if heaven weren’t so far away.
Post # 12
Ask a friend or relation to do a short speech saying what they think your dad would have thought and said at your wedding. Have an image of your dad on a projector screen so that people can imagine him saying it.
The speech could be along the lines of how proud of you he would have been, the sort of things he might have put in a speech, and how well he would have got on with your husband.
Post # 13
I’ve just read your earlier comment about speeches but there might be some merit in it for your husband.
I never met my husband’s father because he died when my husband was 13 years old but I really appreciated my husband’s uncle telling me that his brother would have highly approved of me.
Post # 14
I will be “saving a seat” for my daughter & grandparents who are no longer here.
I will put a rose from my bouquet on each seat, along with either a picture of each or some type of reserved sign and their name.