Post # 1
So, my Fiance and I may have about $1200 left after the wedding, and want to host a dinner for our friends. We want to go to this sports bar, and want to pay for dinner and drinks. The problem is that we have 25 people we’d want to invite. We would really like to be generous, so we’re considering sticking to just the bridal party and their dates, which will be 10 (including me and FI), but I feel I should invite some people who came from out of town, and others to give some guests people to talk to (the 25 people are from 3 different groups of friends, say 16ppl, 3ppl, 6ppl ). Is there a good way to invite specific people from a group even though I know they’ll tell others about it afterward, or should I just invite the bridal party and maybe one of the smaller groups of friends? I’m so confused!
Post # 3
So is the dinner right after the wedding? Are you having a reception?
Post # 4
Oh, sorry. We are having a heavy hors d’ouevre reception. It will be from 2-4:30, then the dinner would be at 6 or 7.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
could you just do dinner for everyone and have a cash bar? Or just pay for first round of drinks?
Post # 7
I think it would be awkward just to invite some people and not everyone, especially if they are going to talk about it. I don’t think there is a good way to do it.
Post # 8
I would invite your closet friends/family these are the people who love and have helped you guys out the most and will be there for you guys throughout your marriage. Traditionally, or so I’ve been told, you should invite your out of town guests to things likes rehearsal dinners and after parties, but I’m not one for traditions. I wouldn’t worry about ppl having someone to talk to, they already have a topic..your wedding and once you get some drinks in them the conversations will last into the evening. Make this more of a thank-you dinner for your bridal party, close friends/family and IMO people will understand, especially since you have an early wedding and went heavy hors d’oueves.
Post # 9
I know you want to be genorous but if i were a friend or a guest at your wedding and had hors d’ouevres til 430 then heard “let’s go to the sports bar next” and I went cause like you said I had heard others were going, i would not expect you to pay, I would have my own bill or if we had a giant tab I would NOT let you pay!” I’d be like “dude it’s your wedding day!” So I wouldn’t worry about it. I mean, you already had the reception so that’s why I would think it was my responsibility to pay. So once you got to the sports bar and were seated, privately talk to the waitress or waiter and tell them what YOUR bill will be. Specify that the bill maybe even not be brought to the table and that you will get up to get it if you really want to treat the wedding party. Hope that makes sense! or helps even a little. your other guests will take care of their bill at their table.