(Closed) How to include 3 dads in the ceremony (all mine!)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

hm, that is a tough one.  i think that your idea of doing the reading is a great one.  even if he isn’t big on public speaking, i am sure it will mean a lot to him, and if you two are really that close, he will be honored and do it despite potentially feeling anxious about it.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I had 2 dads (bio and step and I was extremely close with both. My mom and step dad actually divorced about a year ago, so this situation no longer applies to me. Ever since I was a little girl I had planned to include both father-figures in my wedding. The plan was to have my real dad walk me down the aisle and do my father-daughter dance with my step dad.

Maybe you could do this + the reading for your wedding? Or maybe ask one of your fathers to give a toast at the reception?

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Maybe…

Try one dad walking you down the aisle, one dad saying a prayer or doing a reading, and the other dad giving a speech at reception?

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Suncor Fluvarium

Is your mom walking you down the aisle as well?

What about having your bio dad and stepdad BOTH walk to you down the aisle, one on either side?

It is a conundrum, as I have a stepfather and a biological dad, but, I will have my stepdad who has been like a father to be moreso then my biological dad.

Best of luck with the dialemma! Hopefully it will work out to be alright!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Could they meet you at different points in the aisle? Bio dad walks you down a third of the way, passes off to step dad who walks you down some more then passes you off to spiritual dad who finishes the walk and hands you off? Or maybe when the officiant asks who gives permission to ….. all three dad stand up and say we do?

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2011

wow! I thought I was the only one out there w a “dad” problem. I have a bio-dad (who is in my life to a point), a ex step-dad( who has been in my life since I was 3, but as I get older not so much) & my moms current husband who she has been married to since I was 13(im about to be 29 in august), we have had our ups & downs & at the moment we are having a big “down” bc he & my mom are in the middle of a separation. So now he & I are not on the greastest terms bc his hatred towards my mom I can see he has towards me now too. So the whole point i’m trying to make…. If a grandparent is still alive… Have him walk you down(thats what I’ve decided to do….well, I decided it when my mom got married for the 3rd time). That way no ones feelings get hurt & you don’t have to make such a difficult choice or make it a ordeal per se with the switching of father to father, ect. Hope I could help ya! Good luck!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My FI’s cousin had her dad and step dad walk her down the isle at the same time (one on each side). It was pretty cute. As far as the spiritual dad, honor him in a special way. Maybe make a toast thanking your family (new and old) and include him in it, or ask him to give a reading… or have him get ordained and marry you. 

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