(Closed) how to include both father and stepfather w/o stepping on toes?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Could you pick a long song for the father/daughter dance, and then have step-father cut in? I think that’d be a really nice gesture. 

Post # 4
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think my dad’s gonna walk me down the isle, and then my stepdad will be waiting for me at the end, and I’ll hug him or something like that, before my stepdad passes me on to Fiance.

Post # 5
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Have two father-daughter dances!  Everyone will understand and like that you are honoring them both; I think that cutting in is kind of a harsh symbol.  You could even make them short-ish dances, and they each get their own song that way. 

Post # 6
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I  second hopewell.  Two dances = no drama.  Everyone get’s their moment.  🙂

Post # 7
1580 posts
Bumble bee

You can definitely have them each give a toast if they want. I’m having at least 6 toasts at my wedding. Whoever wants to give one can, but I’m limiting them to like 90 seconds each.

I’d say if you want to do the cut-in thing for the dance, you should start with your step-father and then your dad can cut in to finish the song.

Post # 8
374 posts
Helper bee

I would go with two toasts; two dances.  Why not.

Post # 9
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I agree with two dances, two separate and meaningful songs.  People are sure to understand, this isn’t the 50’s!  Honor them both!

Post # 11
2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think that two songs is a good idea…or one really long song…it might get a little long if you do two father-daughter dances then everything else! I am kind of in the situation…but my stepdad is a lot more a part of my life then my real dad…so im more worried about stepping on his toes then my real dads! you are very lucky to have both of them in your lives like you do 🙂

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