Post # 1
So my boyfriend (fiance still sounds weird!) and I got in a little argument about this yesterday, and I thought that you all would have some good ideas for us.
There are going to be a lot of kids at our wedding ranging in age from almost two to eleven years old. We both like these kids a lot, and I would like to find someway to include them all in our ceremony. The problem is that my boyfriend is worried that they will be disruptive and will detract attention from us. I figure that there is no way they can detract that much attention, as we are the ones people are coming to see. Plus, frankly I think a little chaos can be fun.
Does anyone have any ideas for ways that we can include them that would not be hugely disruptive? To give you some more background, the ceremony will be outdoors in a botanic garden, either near a big fountain or a windmill.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
Other than the common flower girl/ring bearer role..could you have them do some sort of cute performance? 2 is a little young though… When my uncle got married he had all his neices (middle school age) play a song on different instruments during the ceremony seating..then we were shuffled to the back of the church afterwards. Do they have any talents you could showcase?
Or maybe you could divy up your reading and let each kid get a sentence or two? I think as long as you give them a quick, simple “job”, and then put them back with their families, they shouldnt be too distracting?
Post # 4
I don’t think a performance would quite work, and they seem a bit young for a reading (although not all of them). I think including them all as flower children (or something like that) is our best bet, but I’m not really clear on what exactly the flower girls do. Can there be twelve of them?
Post # 5
It’s pretty unconventional, but I think it would be cute to have all of the kids dressed and walk up the aisle… There are a lot of questions though… What about their parents? All willing to fork over the cash for the outfits? There’s a ton of coordination that would have to take place. It sounds like a huge huge huge headache waiting to happen.
If you let all of the children participate, would it be possible for them to walk up and exit a side area? (flower girls walk up the aisle, usually dropping flower petals for the bride to walk on and then stand with the BMs – that’s pretty much it)
Maybe you could hire a sitter or teenage relative to watch them during the ceremony. I was even at a wedding where there was a coloring book and crayons at the alter for the ring bearer so he didn’t get bored.
There are also other “jobs” you could give them. I’ve seen “Tissue Boys” (who stood at the entrance with decorated boxes of kleenex for guests to take as they entered), passing out programs, ushers (older boys), etc.
Whatever you decide, as long as you have the right attitude and don’t expect them to be perfect little angels, it should work out.