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Mom wants a Unity Ceremony... but I don't

How to include mom...

posted 3 months ago in Ceremony

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CrochetLulu June 22, 2012 Lake Elsinore, CA

Hi Bees!

I'm not sure what to do about my mom. She is really wanting my fiance and I to do some sort of sand/candle unity ceremony at our wedding. My fiance and I have talked about it, and we really don't want to do one. We don't have anything against them, we just don't want one. They don't really have a special meaning for us, you know? Her argument is that they are a way to unite the families and it's something that she gets to do in the wedding. My dad gets to give me away and she doesn't have any part in the rest of hte wedding, plus the unity ceremony kind of combines the family (her words, not mine). Now I think that the actual wedding is what unites the families, but that's just me.

I guess my question is if you know of anything else that we can do (besides a sand/candle/wine type ceremony) that would include our moms in the ceremony? I thought about maybe asking her to do a reading, but I am not totally sure we are going to have somebody do a reading. Any thoughts??? I want to make her happy, but I don't want to do something during my vows that really holds no meaning for me or my fiance.

3 months ago

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RevMic July 1997 Oregon

@CrochetLulu: Hi, besides Sand, Wine and candles there are these that I use....

•Wedding Lasso - (a length of cord/ribbon [anything like that] that is made in to a loop. The loop is then twisted into an infinity symbol and one side is looped over the bride's head and the other over the groom's. Usually the couple is either seated in chairs or kneeling on pillows.)

•Rose giving - (Exchanging a rose with your new spouse as your first gift to each other. You will then every year on your anniversary exchange a flower again.) This can also be turned around to being the first gift the couple as husband and wife give their mothers or other special women in their lives.

•Handfasting - (Wrapping your hands in ribbons or cord, showing you are each bound to the other for life. Handfasting is a symbolic ceremony to honor a couple’s desire for commitment to each other; to acknowledge that their lives and their fates are now bound together.)

•Wedding bell - (A bell is presented to you and hubby as your first gift. A Celtic Tradition has it that every couple should receive a bell as a wedding gift. When a disagreement takes place, one of the couple rings the bell to end the discord and declare a truce without an admission of fault.)

3 months ago

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LunaMin June 4, 2011 Michigan

You could have both of your parents walkdugout down the aisleand have his parents escort him down.

3 months ago