(Closed) How to include mother in law…need help from the Italians out there…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

You don’t have to pay for your in-laws hotel rooms. Ask the hotel how many comped rooms you get. We’re at a Hilton and we get 3 rooms for 2 nights (1 for us, 1 for each of our parents) so check into it.

I’m the only girl with older brothers and my Mom’s big on including my FMIL in everything because Mom says she felt left out when my brother’s got married. Do you have your dress yet? Would it be possible to take a ride up to NY and look up there? You could ask her to come along. If your FI has sisters it would be nice to ask them too.

I would ask your FMIL if there’s anything they have tradition as a family – for my FI it’s an old Irish song that we’re including in the ceremony. Some old Italian traditions are really cool too – sometimes the mothers all get together to make platters of various cookies to be placed on the tables at dessert time. Jordan almonds is a big thing too (usually in groups of 5 for health, wealth, happiness, fertility, and longevity). I also heard that they’re supposed to look like eggs which is a sign of fertility… I dunno. Some of the best lace in the world is from Italy – how about using a really old piece of lace (maybe from someone in the family) around your bouquet?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My mom is 1st Gen Italian and I’m 1st Gen British so were all mixed up over here! On the Italian side of things to be honest for our family it all revolves around church and food. My FI and I went to my gramma’s to tell her together and she was super happy and the first thing she asked was what can she cook! She’s pretty modern though and open minded and knows we’re not getting married in a church but I fully expect her to start bugging us about a great grandkid! Other than that Cannolis are a big tradition in our family as well as italian cream cheese cookies. Really the food and actually the process of cooking it together as a family is what took over tradition wise on the Italian side of things since my Dad being from England had so many brit traditions that we did. Good Luck!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know this sounds soooo ridiculous BUT my gram is VERY NY Italian (She literally moved to LA when the Dodgers moved here – this is not a joke, she’s hard core about her baseball) she is serious about her Italians so we’re making sure to have a few Frank Sintara songs played during the reception so she can dance as well (she may be turning 91 2 days later but she can still boogie down – it’s awesome!). She LOVES Frank so maybe there’s somthing like that you can do as well.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

thnk about having a song in Italian at the ceremony. We are doing the AVa Maria in Italian.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@trixi= Ave Maria in the vernacular Italian?!? That is almost always done in the traditional liturgical Latin. Who’s Ave is it? If I missed an arrangement of it that is actually in Italian, this may be something of interest to our musical Italian family…

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Definitely have some Italian music….big thing in my bf’s fam specially at weddings is dancing the Tarantella, which I love and have done….my Hispanic family will probably what in the world is that corny dance, but it is a great way to incorporate the older old fashion Italians…and food ..you have to have cannoli biscotti…I think thats probably the best way to go you can always get people to feel welcome with great food and music I say .

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

hi silverbrooke

 

yes it will be sung in Italian, i know its almost always in latin but the man singing for us sings it in italian and is BEAUTIFUL

i suggest you see if you can get your to do it also!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

You and your mom do not need to pay for your in-laws rooms.  That is their responsibility and they are there to see their son get married.  The biggest tradition I have seen at weddings is the cookie table, with cookies made by the mothers (especially pizzelles!).  Maybe you could get your FMIL to make cookies?  Or does she have a recipe that you could make as a favor and include the recipe?

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