Post # 1
I’m trying to figure out what roles my 9 year old niece and 8 year old nephew (they’re brother and sister, and he turns 8 a month before the wedding) can play in the wedding. I don’t really want to call them flower girl and ringer bearer because they’re both too old for those parts.
I’m trying to brainstorm ideas for them to do and what their “titles” can be. I just keep drawing blanks =( Anyone have any suggestions?
Post # 2
PaisleyMedic: a junior bridesmaid and an usher Or whatever they’re title is? Or she could carry your train down the aisle? I saw that online somewhere…maybe that was younger girls though…
Post # 3
You could have them hold a sign “here comes the bride” or escorttheir grangrandparents down the aisle. They could help theofficiant with setting up any ancillary ceremonies you do like sand or candle etc. You could have your neice hold your bouquet instead of your MOH. They could recite or read something. They could greet guests when they come in, give them a program and help them to their seat. Or they could just be little guests and pose for pictures when you have the family group shots.
Post # 4
When I was younger, I always wanted to be a flower girl, but never got the chance because I was too young or too old at my aunt’s weddings. So on behalf of my 9-year-old self, I’m glad you’re including them 🙂 I would have LOVED to be a flower girl, even at age 9! If you really don’t like that title though, how about calling them Jr. Bridesmaid and Jr. Groomsman/Usher?
ETA: maybe this is a personal thing, but I also did not particularly care for the guest book role when I was younger. I didn’t mind it when asked as an adult, but as a kid, it didn’t feel like much of an honor.
Post # 5
I was a flower girl when I was 8. They called it a junior bridesmaid, but I knew what was up haha. I still loved it. The only bad part was that I had to be responsible for the ring bearer, who was like 2, so I looked especially “old” for the role. I think if they’re both involved, since they’re roughly the same age, they can be the flower girl and ring bearer and it wouldn’t be weird.
Could they hand out programs? We’re having my 12 year old nephew be our usher (along with my brother/his dad who is a groomsman), and he’ll also bring up the wine box for our wine ceremony. If you have something like that, maybe they could be involved?
Post # 6
Maybe I’ll call my nephew an usher but give him ring bearer duties as well? I think my mother wants to be walked down the aisle by him, so that would work in the usher aspect. I had a very good friend makes me a beautiful ring bearer pillow that I would love to use, but I don’t know if the actual act of carrying rings on a pillow is reserved for younger kids.
As for the girl, I suppose I could call her a junior bridesmaid. I guess I could also call her a flower girl. Still stuff to think about =/
Post # 7
When my FI and I get married, my cousin who I am using as my flower girl will be almost 10. I don’t care that in a lot of people’s minds that is an “old” flower girl but it’s my wedding and I feel like I can do what I want.
I like the idea of having your nephew walk your mom down the aisle. I think that is precious!
Post # 8
I read somewhere that flower girls and ring bearers are generally in the 3-9 range. I’ve also read that some churches have a minimum age to participate, of like 5-6. Mine will be 9 and 10, and the 10 year old boy is not big for his age. No way did I want child attendants who had to be carried, or pulled in wagons, and I’ve been to 1 too many weddings where the little ones were walking around during the ceremony. It they and their parents are fine with the title, then go for FG and RB, if you want. My FH’s niece and nephew are going to be a bridesmaid and an usher, at 12 and 15. I toyed with the idea of the niece being a junior bridesmaid, but she’s 2 inches too tall, to fit into a matching junior BM gown. My mom’s friend’s 13 year old son was asked to be the ring bearer in his brother’s wedding. They needed someone to do it and he’s the youngest male attending. Other’s on W/B have had adults in the FG/RB roles.