Post # 1
I am not having a wedding party and I am totally okay with that (as is my future hubby!).
However, my mother-in-law is concerned about my FH’s brother (who lives in another state) feeling included and my mom is worried about my sister feeling included.
To minimize drama, I would love to have some roles for the siblings that don’t involve standing up during the ceremony. How can I include them and make them feel “important”?
Post # 3
@kateisstoned: I’m not having a wedding party and yet I’m arranging to include a lot of people. Some great tasks to include people without having a bridal party:
- Hand out programs
- Do a reading during the ceremony
- Ask them to lead a prayer before dinner
- Put them in charge of the guest book
- Have them great guests and direct them to a side or just a greeting to the wedding if you’re going the pick a seat not a side route.
Post # 4
Perhaps have them do a reading. However I think it’s quite possible that they don’t even care how about cutting out the moms as the middleman and explain that you aren’t having a wedding party and see how they respond. I feel like being invited to the wedding is being included.
Also finding things for people to do just for the sake of it can backfire and make them feel like they are working. I did a reading at one of my brothers weddings, attended as a guest in my other brothers wedding I enjoyed both of them and it was fine. I have four brothers and only one is in my wedding party and everyone is cool with it. My eldest brother is giving a short speech at my wedding and that the extent of everyone involvement.
Post # 5
I agree witch pp. Tell them you’re not having a wedding party and ask if they’d still like to be involved. I’m having my BIL and Future Brother-In-Law walk me down the aisle, uncle play the guitar while I walk down, best friend reading a poem, another friend DJ’ing/MC, and other three good friends in charge of food.