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I think the intro sounds like a good idea. We included our older boys in the vows, but the 19month old was just the ring-bearer (and then had his favorite toys nearby). I definitely think it was enough for him! I think it's okay to not try too hard with a child that age. He won't feel left out and attempting more could be too much for him, especially in front of a large group. Your husband picking him up at the end to walk back down the aisle as a family sounds beautiful! :)
On another note... it felt so wonderful to be married and "become" a family. I didn't think it would feel different for us, as we had lived together and had children, but saying the vows in front of our friends and family with our children there was so powerful. We're still talking about how nice it feels! So, congratulations!! :)
@jjmomma: Thank you for your response!! Ya your right I never thought about more being overwhelming for him. I think by the time he gets down the aisle in front of all those people he will just want to chill. I love the idea of having some of his toys there for him! But I do want to be announced as a family! I can imagine that it is a powerful thing, and I will finally have the last name of my boys lol. I am so happy that you got to do something simalar, that is awesome! I know its supposed to be marriage then kids, but I am really happy that we get to share our day with our son, and Im sure you guys felt the same!!
@organizedbride11: Oh... I know... I thought I would be married and then kids, too! But we're proud of our little family and I was so scared of marriage for whatever reasons, and we took a different path. But I am beyond happy that we finally went through with it and it was a great experience for our older boys to be there! They were so proud. My sister took on the job of watching the little one and he just did his thing during the vows... played and then walked around a bit (we were outside). It made for some cute pictures and a happy baby!! (Yes, I am still calling him the baby lol) :)
ETA DH wrote the kids into his vows and actually spoke directly to the older ones... not sure if that would fit into your age ranges, but it was one of the most beautiful moments of the day, for me, the boys and our families. It wasn't awkward at all and my mom still talks about how meaningful it was.
@jjmomma: It sounds like you guys had a beautiful ceremony! I hope that all of my irrational wedding fears go away and our day goes smoothly lol I think the plan is he is going to sit with my mom and it he starts screaming for some reason my boss is going to take him out and calm him down so my mom doesnt have to miss any of the ceremony. She has got a plan for everything. Must be where I get it from.
@organizedbride11: how did it go? photos?
From the previous posts, it looks like you have already had your wedding, but wanted to share! My Fiance & I have been together for 7 yrs & we have a 3yr old son...yep we did it backwards also..but we are so happy..so it feels like we are married anyways...lol! I also can't wait to have the last name as my Fiance & my Son....my Son will say our whole names & it annoys me to not have the same last name...but I only have about 9months to wait!! We are also having our Son as our Ring Bearer...but I wish I would have seen this post sooner to tell you that I was browsing Wedding Invitations & found a site where they had ideas for sayings where we oculd also include our Son in the invitations! I was so thrilled to see that...so we are def doing that!!
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FI and I really want our son to be a part of the ceremony. We are doing unity sand and thought hey he could have his own color too!! That seemed like a good idea in theory but he is 17 months old. He wont pour it, and I think he will be antsy if he gets up and then has to go back to his seat. He is our ringbearer.. Is that enough? Then we toyed with the idea that instead of announcing us the "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" the pastor could introduce us as "The Smith family" and FI could carry him back down the aisle.. What do you bees think??