Post # 1
During the ceremony, I plan on giving my mom and my MIL a flower from my bouquet at the end of my walk down the aisle before I stand with my husband-to-be.
But now I am looking for a way to honor my dad and my FIL. I’m sure they don’t want to sit there with a flower like the girls, and they will already have boutonnieres anyway.
I was thinking having our dad’s play the part in the unity candle instead of the mom’s… but we are still on the fence of whether or not to do a unity candle still looking around for other ideas with the same meaning besides this and the “sand ceremony”.
We are having a non-religious ceremony, so there will be no religious readings that we can ask them to do.
How are you incorporating your parents, and other family members, in your ceremony??
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Not really. I’ll be dancing with my dad at the reception, but the ceremony is mainly about the marriage of me and the mister. Maybe you could have your celebrant say a few words about your parents and how they are importantt to you!
Post # 4
I think having the dads play a part in the unity ceremony is a good idea, if you plan on doing one – either lighting the tapers of the unity candle, or pouring the first layer of sand.
Miss Bruschetta’s suggestion, of having your officiant give a special mention or thank you for your dads, and maybe explain the flower gifting to your moms, is a great idea also. Or perhaps finding non-religious readings that they could read? There are a lot of options for readings, they don’t have to be religious.
If you decide to incorporate a wine ceremony, or something like that, the dads could come up, and one could present the glass, and one could pour the wine…
If you’re not having a ring bearer, maybe your dads could hold the wedding rings, and come up and present them during the ring vows?