Post # 1
I am getting married in May and I was wondering what the proper procedure for introducing the groom’s father would be. He is openly gay and has been in a relationship for over seven years. I would really like to include his significant other in the introductions because I am including my hubby’s step-father. I guess what I’m really wondering is what term should I use? Life partner? Boyfriend? I wish gay marriage was legal so I could just call him a husband. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
If they consider themselves married why can’t you just say husband?
Post # 4
I would ask your father-in-law what he prefers and use that!
Post # 5
I chose “Life Partner” but I’d scrap the “Life”. It’s becoming more and more common for many people to use “Partner” regardless of their sex, sexual orientation or marital status.
Post # 6
I agree. If they consider themselves married, just say husband. What do they refer to each other as when they introduce themselves? Whatever that is, use it. If you’re unsure, just sit down and ask.
Post # 7
Partner. Ask what he prefers, but I wouldn’t say “husband” unless he voiced that as his preference.
Post # 8
Ask him. We have one set of friends that refer to each other as “husband” and another set that use “partner” and others that use other terms like SO or lover. You definitely want to use the term that he’s most comfortable with!
Post # 9
I would ask him and go with what he says.
Post # 10
Some people may take offense to someone being called a husband who isn’t technically a husband. If they are not married I would not use husband.
Post # 11
I agree, ask him what he thinks would be most suitable. Most people I know would probably prefer “partner” or “life partner” but it completely depends on the couple.
Post # 12
Thank you everyone. After reading your replies and then kicking myself for not thinking of it sooner, I gave him a call. Partner is the term of choice!
Post # 13
Why not just ask him? If they are married, say husband, if not, probably boyfriend or life partner. I think calling him his “friend” is a little insulting.
Post # 14
generally speaking I would just use partner, but I think talking to your FFIL about what he/they prefer is the solid way to go.
Post # 15
I agree that you should ask him, or if you don’t comfortable doing that, just keep an ear out to see if you can discern what they call each other.
Just saw your update. Partner seems to be the term of choice. 🙂
Post # 16
i voted life partner only because husband was not a choice. I would intro him as his husband as long as he is comfortable with that.