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I don't think I'd have them bring up the sand for the unity candle, especially since they are both from the same side of the family. My first instinct would be to not have them hand out bubbles and programs. (My cousin's FSIL asked her to be in charge of cutting and serving the cake to the FSIL's wedding guests, you know, as an "honor.") I would talk to them. Maybe they would LOVE to hand out bubbles and programs, or maybe they would be thrilled if all three of them could do a reading together.
More than what you include them with in the ceremony, though, I think it's important to make sure you include them in other wedding stuff. Let them help with other grunt work if they want, invite them to get mani pedis with your bridesmaids if you're doing that, and just generally keep them around and let them know you genuinely want to be involved, and that you're excited to be their family now.
I think having them act as ushers (handing out bubbles and programs) is a good compromise. You can also list their names in the program, and get them a corsage, to make them feel special.
If you're feeling non-traditional, I think having them present the sand for the unity ceremony is a lovely idea. You could even have them walk down the aisle with the sand vases, and place them at the front when they get there. I don't think it's weird that they're from the same side because, at that point, they get to be part of the processional, and they help to create the special place you will be married in. You should talk to your moms if you think they will be left out.. but you mentioned a sand candle ceremony.. are you having sand and the lighting? Could the Future SILs place the candles/sand, and the Moms light them? I think that's a good compromise.
Another idea would be to include them in the processional, with the parents, before the bridesmaids come in, and then have them seated in the front. You could also get them corsages, and have them escorted by ushers.
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I don't have them as bridesmaids because we're not very close yet...but I know we will be one day and I would like to involve them in the ceremony in some way. There are 3 of them, one is an adult and 2 are teens.
I'm thinking about having the adult do a reading because she is very sociable, but the other two are shy and I know this would make them uncomfortable.
I'm considering having them pass out programs and bubbles, but I feel like this is the "grunt work" of the ceremony, and I wish I could come up with something a little more special for them.
Does anyone have any ideas that they could do for us? Would it be innapropriate to have them bring up the sand for unity candles since that's typically done by the moms? (would the moms be upset that they're not doing it?)
Anyone have any ideas? Even non-traditional ideas are welcomed! Thanks!!