Post # 1
Hello Bees! It’s my first post here and I’m so excited! I posted this question on The Knot, and all I’m getting are comments on how young my FI’s niece is . . . We’ve got it under control, I just didn’t want to make that the focus of my post! JW if anyone has an idea I haven’t thought of on how to include my nephew.
Our nieces and nephews roles are;
Flower Girls; FI’s niece, will be 1.5yrs old
My niece, 10yrs old
Ring Bearers; Fi’s twin nephews, will be 3.5yrs old
I really want my nephew to be a part of the ceremony. We’re having an outdoor wedding, otherwise the “candle lighter” in a church ceremony would be an option. The only other thing I’ve thought of is train bearer. I kind of like the idea, except I think that as a 12 year old boy he may be more embarrassed to walk behind me holding my dress than excited. I asked my Fiance how he would feel at that age being a train bearer. He said he might be embarrassed, but he’d get over it and probably be grateful he was involved in the future. I don’t want to do the thing where he walks don’t the aisle with a sign that says “Here Comes the Bride” . . . What about usher (jr?) or reader? Any other great ideas? Thank you ladies!!
Post # 3
Welcome to Weddingbee! I like the idea of him being an usher. He’s definitely old enough to do that!
Post # 4
I think you’re right! My train isn’t really going to be long enough to be lifted anyway . . . usher it is! Thanks!
Post # 5
I had this same problem. Not with a nephew but with my fiance’s brother. There is a huge age gap and he is 12 as well. We are going to have him help with ushering for the ceremony. He was more than thrilled with the “responsibility” of helping people find their to a seat. And even though we really didn’t need him to do it he was excited because he’s getting to help. And even more excited just to go with his brother to get a tux and take pictures.
Post # 6
An usher is a great way to involve him. You could also have him be a candle lighter, pull a wagon full of flower girls or hand out bubbles/fans/programs. Or you could have a junior bridesmaid and junior groomsman if you wanted the 10 and 12 year olds to stand up with you guys.
My flower girl will be 2, “babies” are adorable and no one expects the same from them as an adult. We are luring ours down the aisle with her two favorite things in the world. She adores my Fiance and he will be holding a chocolate bar for her 🙂
Post # 7
USHER! I think that is WONDERFUL that you are finding a way to include him 🙂