How to keep busy while you wait to tell people

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, maybe this is a huge buzz kill but I would think about how it would feel to tell everyone I had a miscarriage after they got so excited. I think it would be easier for me to tell my mom that I was pregnant and miscarried instead of having to tell her that I miscarried after a big happy announcement. That being said, I know I won’t wait until the second trimester to tell my parents and maybe my brother and a few close friends (we’re still in the TTC phase and our parents definitely don’t know we’re trying)- but I plan to wait until a first appointment just to make sure I’m actually still pregnant and everything is going ok. Of course it is up to you and your husband but I think it would be better to announce- “I’m 8 weeks pregnant and everything is going great so far!” instead of “I’m five weeks pregnant so don’t get to excited because it is still super early.” I guess I’m just saying think of WHY you’d wait to tell everyone as opposed to just feeling impatient with an arbitrary rule. Good luck and congratulations to you!!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Thank goodness for Wedding Bee. We told our families early (5 weeks), but I was (and still am) so grateful for the POAS and April Mamas threads for giving me an outlet and a space to get excited while I’m keeping our secret from the rest of the world! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsAKSkier:  Haha! I said exactly that to our families. “I’m pregnant! OK, I’m only five weeks, so don’t get too excited.” 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Congrats!

I’m not preggo yet, but I think we’ll be doing the same when the time comes (at least waiting until after the first appointment to tell anyone).  I think I would just focus my energy on research at this point.  Do you have any pregnancy or baby books you want to read?  Also, secret Pinterest boards are a godsend 🙂 Great way to obsess without your family and friends catching on.

Good luck keeping your lips zipped!  I’m sure it must be super difficult.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Mrslovebug:  I told EVERY service person I could find–grocery store workers, Buy Buy Baby employees, no one was safe!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I only told my parents right away. They are supportive and I knew if something were to happen they would be there for me.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrslovebug:  it goes by faster then you feel it will. The first week or two drag but it picks up.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

A secret pinterest board for pinning all the baby things your little baby loving heart desires? 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrslovebug:  I second the secret pinterest board. Also find your month board on the bee so you can chat with other mama’s. I got my BFP at 3w1d & wanted to shout it from the rooftops. Luckily we spend the following 18 days out of the country so I just told random people I met on vacation that we were expecting. I spent a lot of time on the March boards sharing my excitment with the other moms. I also started a secret board called “baby fever” on pinterest and went crazy on there. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I found out at 4.5 weeks and at first it was so hard to not say anything.  Especially since I live out of town and was actualy in town visiting my parents!  I am currently 8.5 weeks and we still haven’t told anyone.  It gets easier as time goes by.  I looked forward to my first appointment, then got side tracked by all the early  pregnancy symptoms.  All the due date message boards help, as well as talking with my husband about it.  Also, I started researching baby strollers, car seats, etc.  That is time consuming!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I created a secret Pinterest board and started going to town pinning baby things to keep me occupied! I researched more about cribs, monitors, bedding etc-  all the little fun things just to pass the time. 🙂 Other than that, i tried to fill up weekends with visits to friends, upgrades to the house, tried new recipes, organized closets etc!  Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I made a secret board on pinterest and then I started posting on the bee with ladies that are also due in January 2014. It made it a lot easier for me to keep things to myself for a few LONG weeks!

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mrslovebug:  We told our parents and siblings because we could use them as support if anything would happen. Honestly, at this point, everyone except me is excited to spill the beans while I am completely content to keep this a secret as long as possible to combat the “oh when are you due” “is it a boy or girl” and “are you excited” questions.

I do like to talk about it here though, so this is a great way to tell “everyone” about your pregnancy and gatehr support until October 🙂

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